Post # 1
Hi bees! Just wanted to ask what you all did with young children at your wedding, particularly at the reception.
Our reception venue doesn’t cater to kids aged under 5 in their menu. 5 – 12 year olds will eat from the children’s menu, but I find it crazy to spend $65 on a seat, pizza, chicken fingers and ice cream for an under 5 to only pick at their plate.
What did, or would you do in this situation? Thanks!
Post # 2
How little are we talking? If there’s a menu five year olds can eat, four year olds can probably eat it too. For a toddler, I might contact the parents and just tell them “hey, this is what’s on offer for Elizabethany. Do you see any issues?” Then it’s up to them if they want to bring a baggie of Cheerios or feed their kids from their own plates or whatever. I’d still have the kids meal available, in case the kid’s tastes change before the wedding.
We didn’t do anything special for children’s meals, but the idea of special food for kids (beyond baby food) doesn’t really exist in this country. Kids grow up eating a smaller portion of the adult meal. So we had things served family style and the parents just gave the kids as much as the kids would eat.
Post # 3
xiexie : Thanks for responding! That’s all pretty fair. The kid is expected to be 2.5 at the time of the wedding, which I’m finding to be an awkward age! I don’t mind accommodating, but the thought of paying $65 for a small pizza, chicken fingers and chips and ice cream hurts if it will probably be thrown across our venue.
We’re in Australia and will be having a 3 course, alternate serve menu. Having family style food would be so much easier and leave me with less to worry about!
Post # 4
vegemitetoast : I get that. Keep in mind though, you’ll probably be paying for a few adults to just pick at their meals too. People order grouper because they think it’s poultry not fish, or they cut out carbs between the RSVP and the wedding, or they had no idea the paprika chicken would be spicy. It’s just one of those unfortunate things that goes along with hosting.
At the very least, I’m sure the tot will eat the ice cream!
Post # 5
xiexie : You’re sooo right. Thanks for putting into perspective for me, I feel like I was definitely being a bit of a bridezilla over it. We’re paying $185 per head for each adult, and I didn’t even think that they’d be the fussiest! I definitely think the ice cream and sprinkles will be appreciated, as you said.
Post # 6
Yeah a 2.5 year old can eat that food, they won’t eat much but they’ll eat it. 2.5 is bigger than you’re maybe thinking? We had 2 year old that ate her chicken fingers like a champ! And she was the highlight of the wedding, so well behaved and sweet!
Post # 7
It’s expensive, but it is what it is. You could always ask their parents if they are a good eater and if they think the kid will eat? I have an 18 month old and I can say for sure, if you ordered her a plate of food for a wedding she would put a dent it in. Other parents may know their kid is just a picker and prefer to feed them off their plate. Can’t hurt to ask!
Post # 8
My 2.5 year old will finish her child’s plate while her 7 year old sister will only pick at it. Totally depends on the kid.
Post # 9
Really depends on the kid and also if they are in a growth spurt.
My younger kid has always eaten every bit in front of her regardless of her age, the food or amount. Seriously… I had to remove plates while she was distracted to prevent her from overeating to the point of discomfort.
My older kid is picky and would probably nibble at the plate even at 11.
That said… it is what it is. If it’s only one kid, I’d probably just pay. Chances are one of the adults might eat his food anyway. 🙂
Post # 10
I don’t mean to be harsh, but a person should not be invited if you aren’t willing to provide them a meal. As others have said, sometimes a two year old will each a surprising amount while some teens or adults will only pick at their (much more expensive) plate. in the end, it isn’t worth saving $65 to not feed the child. I wouldn’t even ask the parent, as that puts them in the awkward position of wondering whether it was “worth it” to feed their (invited) children.
Post # 11
Thanks, everyone! You all make valid points. We’ve decided that we’ll go with providing the child with a full dinner. I’m sure we’ll feel a whole lot better knowing that everyone is properly hosted. Weddings are expensive and the whole thing has me covering my eyes, sometimes!