What to do with under 5s at reception?

posted 4 months ago in Reception
Post # 2
1049 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

How little are we talking?  If there’s a menu five year olds can eat, four year olds can probably eat it too.  For a toddler, I might contact the parents and just tell them “hey, this is what’s on offer for Elizabethany.  Do you see any issues?”  Then it’s up to them if they want to bring a baggie of Cheerios or feed their kids from their own plates or whatever.  I’d still have the kids meal available, in case the kid’s tastes change before the wedding.

We didn’t do anything special for children’s meals, but the idea of special food for kids (beyond baby food) doesn’t really exist in this country.  Kids grow up eating a smaller portion of the adult meal.  So we had things served family style and the parents just gave the kids as much as the kids would eat.

Post # 4
1049 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

vegemitetoast :  I get that.  Keep in mind though, you’ll probably be paying for a few adults to just pick at their meals too.  People order grouper because they think it’s poultry not fish, or they cut out carbs between the RSVP and the wedding, or they had no idea the paprika chicken would be spicy.  It’s just one of those unfortunate things that goes along with hosting.

At the very least, I’m sure the tot will eat the ice cream!

Post # 6
900 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

Yeah a 2.5 year old can eat that food, they won’t eat much but they’ll eat it. 2.5 is bigger than you’re maybe thinking? We had 2 year old that ate her chicken fingers like a champ! And she was the highlight of the wedding, so well behaved and sweet!

Post # 7
4245 posts
Honey bee

It’s expensive, but it is what it is. You could always ask their parents if they are a good eater and if they think the kid will eat? I have an 18 month old and I can say for sure, if you ordered her a plate of food for a wedding she would put a dent it in. Other parents may know their kid is just a picker and prefer to feed them off their plate. Can’t hurt to ask!

Post # 8
7778 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

My 2.5 year old will finish her child’s plate while her 7 year old sister will only pick at it. Totally depends on the kid.

Post # 9
1888 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Really depends on the kid and also if they are in a growth spurt. 

My younger kid has always eaten every bit in front of her regardless of her age, the food or amount. Seriously… I had to remove plates while she was distracted to prevent her from overeating to the point of discomfort. 

My older kid is picky and would probably nibble at the plate even at 11. 

That said… it is what it is. If it’s only one kid, I’d probably just pay. Chances are one of the adults might eat his food anyway. 🙂

Post # 10
6445 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I don’t mean to be harsh, but a person should not be invited if you aren’t willing to provide them a meal. As others have said, sometimes a two year old will each a surprising amount while some teens or adults will only pick at their (much more expensive) plate. in the end, it isn’t worth saving $65 to not feed the child. I wouldn’t even ask the parent, as that puts them in the awkward position of wondering whether it was “worth it” to feed their (invited) children.

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