(Closed) What to do without help?

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
16 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

I moved out of state for a job and will be getting married this summer.  I understand where you are coming from, it is difficult to complete tasks without help.  None of the people in my wedding party live close.  My advice to you would be to take advantage of the time you do have with your friends.  I am making a trip home soon and visiting a friend later this month.  When those events happens I take full advantage.   

I freqently call my out of town friends while I am shopping.  Then if I find something I like, I can explain it to them.  I also email two of my bridesmaids daily. 

Post # 4
241 posts
Helper bee

Do you have other friends not in your wedding that you enjoy spending time with and would be willing to come along for the little things? If not, do you have bridesmaids who are into it but just to far away where you could send them pics so you don’t feel totally alone? As a last resort, can you tell your Fiance you know he doesn’t want to help with little details but as you have nobody, you would appreciate him coming along for the ride.

As a side note, he should be picking his wedding band out. That’s not a girly bride detail.

Post # 5
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I would have LOVED to have had help during the wedding planning. I asked nicely, I hinted, I even got a bit irritated. I got ZERO help. And frankly, it irritates me still. I hope none of my BMs ever ask me for help with wedding planning because I will say no and explain exactly why.  Luckily I found weddingbee the last three months before the wedding – at least I could get some advice and opinions!


Do ASK for help. But if push comes to shove and you got to do it yourself, then do so and create the wedding that is a true reflection of what you want it to be. In the end, we had a blissful, unique wedding and I had a great deal of pride in knowing that I was the one who made it happen!

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