(Closed) What to do….with bridesmaidzilla?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think the only thing you can do is emphasize the fact that you want them to have straps.  It’s not her decision to make.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL

wait….she complained about the cut…but its the exact same dress with out the strap….tell her to suck it up, its the dress you picked she can live with it for one night….and if she wants a different dress tell her fine but whatever dress she picks MUST have some sort of strap on it..

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

What’s the problem? It’s the same dress. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I don’t know, I sort of think you should just let her wear it. It’s not uncommon for the Maid/Matron of Honor to have a dress that’s slightly different from the bridesmaids’ dresses, and other than the straps the dresses seem identical. If she doesn’t like dresses with straps, she doesn’t. You’re going to be the bride no matter what, so why not relent on a small issue that will make her happy?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL

@hmgreene3540:  no its the same dress….same cut of fabric..the only difference is the strap…sounds to me like shes intentionally trying to be difficult…like i said tell her if she wants a different dress than fine but it must have some sort of strap

 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

It looks like the one you have is more rouched up and down and the one she picked more draped. I know that with the style you picked, it was not flattering on my top either, but not enough of a problem that I would refuse to wear a dress. I would try to find a dress that they all will ike since they are paying for it, but in the end it is your call.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It looked looks like the same dress to me and asking her to wear a dress with straps doesn’t seem unreasonable. If she’s being difficult can you just tell her she can buy the dress she wants, but will have to get alterations to add straps?

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have smaller boobs and I find that halter is more flattering for them than strapless. I actually think the halter dress would be more flattering all around. My wedding dress is strapless and I also did not want my BM’s in strapless dresses for that reason so I totally get where you are coming from.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It’s basically the same dress.  I would say she can do her pick on the condition that she adds straps to it – doesn’t have to be a halter, but some kind of straps.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It looks to be basically the same dress, just with the halter dress with a slightly deeper cut/dip in front and back.  Does the second dress perhaps come with straps that can be used or not used and you can just ask her to wear them?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I personally loathe halter style straps. Whatabout buying extra fabric and having someone add spaghetti straps instead? Ultimately it is your wedding and I would wear whatever you wanted me to, but I understand where she is coming from. To me, halter is dated and unflattering for my giant boobs.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Although the tops are super similar, the way the halter is formed makes the first dress seem a little lower cut to me. Would you be comfortable offering to pay to have the opening tacked together on top for her, maing it into a truer sweetheart instead of a V-neck?

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