(Closed) What to expect?

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

We actually had fun. They went over many things that people should have already been talking about but at the same time it was interesting that many couples never had the discussions about money, where they would live, how many kids, etc.

We did a lot of excercises to get people talking about a lot of real life issues. We created budgets and determined our 5 yr/10 yr goals.

Post # 4
318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I was looking forward to ours, but it was fairly boring.  Mostly things like how to communicate, how to fight fair, etc.  Some on raising kids (FI and are not planning to have children.)  We had to write a letter to our Fiance to be read a year after the wedding, I hated this cause I can’t write like that on the spot.  But Fiance and I are older (mid-30’s) and have been together for 4+ years, so it wasn’t a lot we didn’t know already.  I don’t know what Fiance expected, but he didn’t find it as dull as I.

Post # 5
597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Mine was rather long/drawn out and fairly boring too. Very exhausting to just sit there for so long! we felt like we had jet lag afterwards!  Ours was more about instilling Catholic values in you such as their beliefs in stay at home moms, NFP, and the dad as head of household. How marriage is indissoluble, whatever that word is:) Other things fiance and I have already talked about.

It was basically this format: speech/powerpoint presentation…then you would answer questions that were from a book you were supposed to read/what they covered in speech in *separate* rooms, then you were to discuss the questions…….try this like 8 times!

There were a few talks from priests, as well….

Ours also started with attending a mass, which was cool:)

Post # 6
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ours was also very boring.  We basically sat there for 8 hours and listened to some very boring, very dated lectures from a married couple.  They were sickeningly sweet and peppy and I was over it very quickly.  All of their pop culture references were from the 80’s or earlier and it was a room of mostly 20 somethings who had no clue what they were talking about. 

We were lectured on many of the things other posters have mentioned…how to communicate/fight, NFP (my fiance really did not enjoy hearing about women’s fluids!), money management (where I was told that I’m supposed to budget my contribution to the church before anything else.  Yeah, don’t think my mortgage company feels the same way!)

To top it off, we had to drive over an hour to attend in a different city, pay for parking (which we were not told beforehand) and then find someplace to eat lunch on our own in an area of town we were not familiar with.  Needless, to say we felt the day was a waste of time.  I sincerely hope your class is better than ours.

Post # 7
566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Ours was boring but tolerable.

We were supposed to fill out numerous questionnaires alone and then talk to our partner about our answers.  This could have been very beneficial since the questions were about our relationship, but there was no time for me to even finish half the questions by myself.  We’ve been trying to go over these on our own time, but so far it hasn’t worked so well.

Post # 8
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We actually really liked ours. It was a 1.5 day session (Friday night and all day Saturday ending with a mass). Truthfully, you get out what you put in. Fiance and I went in with open minds and open hearts. We learned a few things and were also able to talk about what worked for us/what didn’t. We had a lot of younger couples “teaching” and that was nice because we could relate to them. 

Truth be told though, we actually got WAY more out of our Focus session. If you have the opportunity to do that, I highly recommend it. We learned things about each other and talked about certain things that we might not have thought to talk about. 



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