(Closed) What to Expect at Engaged Encounter?

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Olive12:  I anticipated it being very intrusive or overly Jesus-y (does that sound bad?), but it was actually very refreshing. Even Fiance, who is not a religious person, recognized the merit of the program. It was a LOT of one on one time with each other, making sure you were on the same page as each other on issues like children, finances, etc. It kind of forces you to verbalize your expectations for marriage as well as what you love about the other person. I honestly felt closer to Fiance after 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Olive12:  No prob! We are kind of liberal heathens, too 😉 Liberal Catholics just seem to be really unheard of in the South.

Post # 6
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Worker bee

@Olive12:  Hopefully you are enjoying your weekend! Just wanted to pop in and say we absolutely LOVED our EE weekend, despite not knowing what to expect. The format we worked within was that we were given a workbook of sorts with lots of open-ended, dialogue-driving questions– first, a couple would give a short, topical discussion (on finances, children etc.) relating their personal experiences, and then we were given time separately to journal in our workbooks working from those prompting questions. We then got together privately to read each other’s answers and discuss them. It is a really valuable communication method that we still utilize today (we went in March) to discuss “hot topics” because it gives us each a chance to consider our feelings calmly through the act of writing and then also time to digest the other’s (via reading each other’s thoughts silently a few times) before moving into dialogue.

Post # 8
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Worker bee

@Olive12:  I hear you on the preachiness– we didn’t experience that at our EE weekend but we definitely have in private meetings with our priest (where it is almost MORE awkward because you’re one-on-one!). Someone told me once that we can’t really expect Catholic-stamped events/practices (homilies, EE weekends, FOCCUS follow-up convos etc.) to teach the 85% Catholic tradition. So you’ve kind of got to expect a couple standing up at an EE weekend will share the benefits of NFP, you know? But I do think things should be framed as, “These are all the ways NFP is great for our marriage” instead of “These are all the reasons why contraception is horrible and sinful.”

Enjoy the Mass tomorrow! One of my favorite parts of our weekend was when the time for the sign of peace came around– you’ve never heard so many kisses at one time in a room as at that Mass, ha!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@upnorth123:  Haha, And to think I was always taught never to kiss in church until the first kiss as a married couple lol. tradition not Tradition i’m sure (there is Catholic schools for you t vs T lol)

As for this EE did anyone have really bad experiances? we are going on ours in January, ours is overnight which I like because it seperates us from the world without going back to it to sleep (better for me).

On another note for the bees that didn’t live together before marriage what were your experiances with EE?

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