Post # 1
A friend of mine is studying to be a midwife and she told me that the What To Expect When You’re Expecting book is terrible and she wishes it would be banned because it scares women and I’m sure she had other reasons.
So when my aunt was giving me all her baby books I refused to take that one, but I did take her What To Expect in the First Year book.
Already, just reading the first chapter, it has me re-thinking my idea of avoiding an epidural (since it says that pain does not help in birth, and it can actually be harmful to the baby) and it doesn’t have anything to say ‘against’ epidurals. (Although it seems to be trying to present itself as a reference that is examining the pros and cons of everything).
Secondly, I was shocked with the impression it gave about cloth diapering. (Saying that at-home cleaning of cloth diapers cannot properly sanitize diapers and puts the baby at greater risk for diaper rash). I was a bit shocked.
Clearly this is not the book for me, but I was just wondering how you bees felt about the book (which is arguably the most commonly read series in pregnancy)
Post # 3
My doctor actually recomment the mother of all pregnancy books becausae it is Canadian. So far I am liking it. It does have some things about it that I don’t love but I think it just tells you all the different possibilties and aspects. I’ve heard “The Girlfriend’s Guide” is supposed to be really funny also. I may pick that one up a little later!
Post # 4
I am a student midwife and I really, really dislike what to expect when you’re expecting. I find it very negative, very biased and the information downright overwhelming— so many women walk into our office freaking out about what they’re read in WTE when it really has no bearing on a healthy pregnancy.
Here are my favorite books:
Anything by Peggy Simkin
The Thinking Woman’s Guide to a Better Birth
The Birth Partner (for your birth partner!)
The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding
I love the Dr. Sears library.
Post # 5
@cvbee:I thought it was ok but it kind of scared me. Avoid the “scary” chapters.
Are you reading the most recent version? It’s constantly being updated. You have to remember that this book is very clinical, and catering to ALL pregnant women, including the ones with no common sense, who would let a baby sit in a gross diaper all day, or not take the baby to the doctor if sick. I plan to cloth diaper, and though I have had an epidural before, I see the benefits of having one and also not having one. Don’t let anything in there scare you from what you’d like to attempt. I used to hilight certain things in the book and bring them to my OB to ask for clarification.
I actually think the book does a pretty good job of not forcing one particular birth method on women, it’s more of an overall view.
I liked The Girlfriend’s Guide to Pregnancy too, but I was a more laid back open to anything kind of mom. If you’re looking for a very specific birth experience you probably won’t enjoy it, but it’s funny.
Post # 6
The Mayo Clinic Guide To A Healthy Pregnancy has been my favorite book so far.
Post # 7
I read them when I was pregnant with DS b/c I didn’t really know of anhy other pregnancy/birthing books. Since then though I’ve come to dislike the WTE books ALOT.
I don’t find the information to be helpful or encouraging at all, and to me encouraging a pregnant woman in her body’s & minds capability to get through a healthy pregnancy and birth is important. WTE doesn’t do that at all!
I did like the WTE the first year but only b/c of the recipes and first aid/health guide in the back. I stayed away from the rest b/c then it’s easy to go “Oh my kids not doing that yet… are they okay??!” Again, not encouraging or confidence building. =/
This go round I haven’t had any books for my “pregnancy” and the books I’ve decided to go with for preparing for birth are
Ina May’s “Guide to Childbirth”
The Birthing Partner (which is alot bigger than I though so DH may not get around to reading it)
Supernatural Childbrith – because I’ve heard alot of great things from moms that used it
A Christian Woman’s Guide to Childbirth – because it’s relevant to my belief and has ecouraging scripture for each stage of labor. =)
Post # 8
@cvbee: I chose to stay away from WTE from the get-go because of all the things I had heard about it. So I don’t have anything positive/negative to say about it because I chose not to read it.
A close friend of mine was a home-birth natural, cloth-diapering mom and when I got pregnant she loaded me up with books!
I have loved The Pregnancy Book and The Baby Book by Dr. Sears. I’ve read a few others, but mostly refer to those. They’re quite thorough. And they do address c-sections, epidurals and methods other than natural birth too and they never make it sound like either way is bad or better than the other, but that different women’s needs are different. Dr. Sears does tend to make a more natural approach though, such as encouraging breastfeeding for 2 years, baby-wearing, attachment parenting, etc. I am very glad I found his book!
Post # 9
I’m not a huge fan for just random reading, but I did keep them on hand for reference on specific issues/questions. I actually used the WTE Your First Year book quite a bit more than I did the pregnancy book.
I did like the Dr. Sears books and The Birth Partner. For pregnancy, I also like Our Bodies, Ourselves: Pregnancy and Birth and Your Pregnancy: Week by Week.
Post # 10
I read it, but I felt kind of freaked out by it, and I wasn’t even pregnant yet (still TTC). So far, the book I like the most is Your Pregnancy and Childbirth Month to Month, by the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. My OB’s office gave it to me when we went in for our first prenatal appointment. It’s clinical and cut and dry, but so far hasn’t scared me any.
Post # 11
I am currently ready WTE before your Expecting. Obviously having no experience it seems fairly educational so far. Although, what do I know! 😉 A little on the scary side i guess, lots of “don’t do’s” and wondering how realistic they are.
Anyone else read this one and think it was a poor read? After reading this i think i’ll avoid the WTE when you’re Expecting book! :S
Post # 12
i have heard that the what to expect books make you scared,
but i have “what to expect whhen you’re expecting” and it has been an amazing resource for me. it has helped so much…it explains almost every little symptom i am having and gives tips on how to avoid discomfort.
when i had questions about my stuffy nose, my acid reflux, and why the heck my boobs were leaking, it was th best resource in the hosue!
what are the “scary chapters?” I have not found anything scary in the whole book…
Post # 13
I’m reading WTEWYE right now and haven’t gotten a negative impression at all! I like how it gives a week-by-week summary of what’s going on with the baby, what I can expect to feel and common questions that pregnant ladies have at the various stages of pregnancy. When I first got pregnant, I did start to read it all the way through, but stopped when I got to the L&D part because, well, that’s scary no matter where you read it, and it wasn’t relevant at the time. So now I’m sticking with reading each chapter as I get to that month in my pregnancy.
I also read What to Expect Before You’re Expecting and thought it gave a nice overview of the process, what you can do to prepare your body, how to eat better and how to chart (if you want to chart). With any book, I think it’s important to ignore the things that don’t apply/what you don’t agree with. And ask your OB/midwife if you have questions so you can tailor the information to your specific situation.
Post # 14
I have to agree I like the WTE books and found no parts “scary” WTF on that. They tell you WTE in all types of situations. I have WTE, WTE the first year and toddler years. I have read other preganacy books also. I fond WTE the most informative