Post # 1
That’s right, FI’s birthday is coming up on the 16th and I have to get him something…every time I get him gifts, whether it is for Christmas, anniversary, or a birthday, he never uses anything.
One year I got him a surround sound sound bar for the tv – never hooked it up…one year I got him a nice watch – never wears it…got hi a personalized zippo lighter, it’s sitting on a shelf collecting dust…got him a $600 camera/gear – it’s sitting on the dining room table in a pile of paperwork…there have been so many others but the list is too long to post here.
The only gift he ever uses is the rice cooker I gave him on Valentine’s day.
So, Bee’s, I am seeking advice, and any help you can give me…what do I get a man that I love dearly, but sometimes want to kill, because he is probably the hardest person to shop for only because he will never use anything I buy him – even though he has asked for these things and made it known that they were needed.
Post # 2
Why don’t you get him an experience of some kind? What does he like to do?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
bippidyboppidyboo: Why waste money on something he won’t use? Can you two take the day off work and go on a fun day or weekend trip, or do something new and exciting like sky diving, a concert, go to a amusement park, etc?
Post # 4
LOL! I’m with ya, FI’s bday is the 9th. I’ll be buying Bruins tickets as hockey is his favorite thing ever. Agreed with the others. Maybe a brewery/vineyard tour? Nice steak dinner?
Post # 5
agree with PP … what about a cooking class (due to the rice cooker comment I assume he cooks) or a night out to see a band he likes or a massage or a personal trainer session?
also you might want to ask him to make up an amazon wish list or something like that – it can be any random thing that he sees and likes so that you know its something he actually wants
Post # 6
mrscali13: lolot: littlemisshostess: he doesn’t like to go anywhere…lol, he’s such a home-body, I can’t drag his butt anywhere on a normal day.
silvalia: haha, steak dinner…he requested KFC…that I can do…lol.
Ya know, they really should make a greeting card that says “You’re a real Pain in the A$$, but I love you anyway”…but no, can’t find that one anywhere…because that about sums it up…lol
Post # 7
bippidyboppidyboo: Maybe get him an experience instead of a physical gift? Concert tickets, beer tours, a special dinner, tickets to a game for a hockey/basketball team he likes?
Post # 8
I’m not one to give objects as gifts… I try my best to give something they can do! If he doesn’t use things, try taking him somewhere (a trip) or a massage or a sporting event… buy tickets for the both of you. Then he has to go! 🙂
I gave my Fiance a massage gift card, and he had yet to use it after 4 months. So what did I do? Scheduled the appointment, drove him there, and picked him up. LOL. Works every time!
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom
Does he have anything that he uses that needs to be replaced? I like giving Darling Husband practical gifts (along with fun gifts) and I’ve given him a wallet to replace his old one that was falling apart, a water bottle to replace the one he had that leaked and a leather belt to replace the one that was getting ready to tear.
Post # 10
can you throw a party at home for him? I was all over Darling Husband cause it was his 40th this year and he really just didn’t want to do anything so instead of forcing him into something that he didn’t want I had like 6 of his friends over and had a big DIY burger bar w tatertots…. I begged him to let me serve steak or get a prime rib but he wanted burgers so that is what I did!
maybe instead of thinking about a “fancy” gift you just do something that is more normal but nice (ie really soft cotton undershirts that fit nice vs cheap hanes, designer jeans vs levis, nice 6 blade razor vs bic etc)
Post # 11
Get him *something* he will use (surely there must be something he uses at home that he wants) or just get him nothing at all. Does he even enjoy getting the gifts or does he think it’s a pointless waste. Why waste money and space?
… as for the soundbar, hook that up so you can at least enjoy it!
Post # 12
In a case like that I would outright ask.
Post # 13
For one, I’d stop spending so much money on gifts if he’s not going to use them.
Secondly, make him a nice cake, get him a card, and take him out to dinner. That’s enough for an adult, especially if it’s not a milestone birthday. You can invite friends over if you want to celebrate a little more.
Also, does he drink? Darling Husband would LOVE it if I bought him a pricy bottle of Scotch.
Post # 14
I agree with getting him an experience but if he won’t leave the house…
Get him something practical that you know for sure he will use. I know Darling Husband needs tools and would enjoy/actually use a Home Depot gift card.
Or bring an “experience” to him. My friend is throwing her husband a surprise party in a couple weeks. Or just make a really special night for the two of you. Cook his favorite meal, make his favorite dessert, decorate the house for his birthday, rent a good movie and pick up his favorite bottle of wine/beer/alcohol. Light a bunch of candles and have a romantic night in.
Post # 15
bippidyboppidyboo: I agree with the experiences!
Go onto groupon, book a hotel that is near a local city, etc. My Dear Fiance and I give eachother “experiences” versus things. we have gone to a Chicago Blackhawks conventions, concerts, spent a weekend in a local resort town, etc. There has to be something he likes to do!