(Closed) What to get FI for his Birthday…that he ultimately will never use anyway

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Post # 2
905 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Why don’t you get him an experience of some kind? What does he like to do?

Post # 3
9130 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

bippidyboppidyboo:  Why waste money on something he won’t use?  Can you two take the day off work and go on a fun day or weekend trip, or do something new and exciting like sky diving, a concert, go to a amusement park, etc? 

Post # 4
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

LOL! I’m with ya, FI’s bday is the 9th.  I’ll be buying Bruins tickets as hockey is his favorite thing ever.  Agreed with the others.  Maybe a brewery/vineyard tour? Nice steak dinner?

Post # 5
2178 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

agree with PP … what about a cooking class (due to the rice cooker comment I assume he cooks) or a night out to see a band he likes or a massage or a personal trainer session?


also you might want to ask him to make up an amazon wish list or something like that – it can be any random thing that he sees and likes so that you know its something he actually wants

Post # 7
287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

bippidyboppidyboo: Maybe get him an experience instead of a physical gift? Concert tickets, beer tours, a special dinner, tickets to a game for a hockey/basketball team he likes?

Post # 8
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’m not one to give objects as gifts… I try my best to give something they can do! If he doesn’t use things, try taking him somewhere (a trip) or a massage or a sporting event… buy tickets for the both of you. Then he has to go! 🙂

I gave my Fiance a massage gift card, and he had yet to use it after 4 months. So what did I do? Scheduled the appointment, drove him there, and picked him up. LOL. Works every time!

Good luck!

Post # 9
918 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom

Does he have anything that he uses that needs to be replaced? I like giving Darling Husband practical gifts (along with fun gifts) and I’ve given him a wallet to replace his old one that was falling apart, a water bottle to replace the one he had that leaked and a leather belt to replace the one that was getting ready to tear.

Post # 10
2178 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

can you throw a party at home for him? I was all over Darling Husband cause it was his 40th this year and he really just didn’t want to do anything so instead of forcing him into something that he didn’t want I had like 6 of his friends over and had a big DIY burger bar w tatertots…. I begged him to let me serve steak or get a prime rib but he wanted burgers so that is what I did!

maybe instead of thinking about a “fancy” gift you just do something that is more normal but nice (ie really soft cotton undershirts that fit nice vs cheap hanes, designer jeans vs levis, nice 6 blade razor vs bic etc)

Post # 11
14969 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Get him *something* he will use (surely there must be something he uses at home that he wants) or just get him nothing at all.  Does he even enjoy getting the gifts or does he think it’s a pointless waste.  Why waste money and space?

… as for the soundbar, hook that up so you can at least enjoy it!

Post # 12
173 posts
Blushing bee

In a case like that I would outright ask. 

Post # 13
4521 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

For one, I’d stop spending so much money on gifts if he’s not going to use them.

Secondly, make him a nice cake, get him a card, and take him out to dinner. That’s enough for an adult, especially if it’s not a milestone birthday. You can invite friends over if you want to celebrate a little more.

Also, does he drink? Darling Husband would LOVE it if I bought him a pricy bottle of Scotch.

Post # 14
2733 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I agree with getting him an experience but if he won’t leave the house…

Get him something practical that you know for sure he will use. I know Darling Husband needs tools and would enjoy/actually use a Home Depot gift card.

Or bring an “experience” to him. My friend is throwing her husband a surprise party in a couple weeks. Or just make a really special night for the two of you. Cook his favorite meal, make his favorite dessert, decorate the house for his birthday, rent a good movie and pick up his favorite bottle of wine/beer/alcohol. Light a bunch of candles and have a romantic night in.

Post # 15
414 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

bippidyboppidyboo:  I agree with the experiences!
Go onto groupon, book a hotel that is near a local city, etc. My Dear Fiance and I give eachother “experiences” versus things. we have gone to a Chicago Blackhawks conventions, concerts, spent a weekend in a local resort town, etc. There has to be something he likes to do! 

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