Post # 1
We invited a couples to our wedding back in Oct. They had to travel, paid for hotel and even got us a generous gift ($200). I just found out from the bride today she’s having a small wedding (family only). She said since there isn’t a reception, they don’t expect gifts. My questions are:
Although we are not invited, do we still have to get her something since she spent the money on ours?
If the previous answer is yes, since she isn’t registering, what should we get her? Of how much value ($100)? Is it okay to give lesser value since we are not attending the wedding? Is it weird to send a check?
Post # 3
I would send her a nice gift. Maybe a nice crystal vase or something
Post # 4
I don’t think its weird to send a check. I wouldn’t want to guess someone’s taste if they aren’t registered. I’d go check or gift card.
Post # 5
We send gifts because we want to not because we have to.
I would send a gift in the amount I could afford. In this particular case, I would probably send a cheque or a gift card as I have no idea what they need or want.
Post # 6
If we do send cash, would it be like return some of here money back to her? Our wedding was in Oct and her is next month.
Post # 7
I would definitely send a gift/money just as I would have if we did go to the wedding. We are having a small family wedding and are receiving gifts from those not invited already (before announcements) that would be what I would hafe expected from them if they attended a wedding.
But it’s up to you. Like th PP said, we give because we want to.
Post # 8
@cutexkitty: I wouldnt send a cheque. I would opt for a gift, something useful, maybe some lovley wine glasses or champagne flutes? Or if they are beer drinkers some nice beer glasses and a mix of international beers?
Post # 9
It would depend on the person, but typically, if I was not invited to the wedding I wouldn’t feel compelled to send the traditional cash gift I would normally give. If I still wanted to send a token of some kind, I would send a nice card and maybe a gift card to somewhere different/interesting. Like a cool home store in their area, or a new restaurant. Unless you know of something in particular they would want/need.