(Closed) what to gift my girls?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My mom paid for our girls to get their hair done and we paid for the socks and ties for the guys, but we wanted to do something that was non-wedding for our bridal party. The guys all got $100 gift cards to Amazon, and I’m going to buy $100 gift cards to different stores for the ladies that I know they like.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I think it might be a little too wedding related, but if the jewelery is at least to your BMs personal taste, it might be okay.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am having a Bridal party sleepover the night before the wedding and gifting the girls Bridesmaids PJ’s , toe socks and maybe a gift card to somewhere they can enjoy it

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

it’s all self serving, sorry but I think you should gift them something to their tastes

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

greenmint

 I’m paying for them to feel pretty.

for whos benefit?   its YOUR  wedding,,,so why does a wedding related gift qualify as a ‘gift’  at all?   its all for your day…..what good will any of this claptrap  be to them afterwards?

i think its totally out of line, which is why i will dress my girls and buy them jewellery i want them to wear,…..THEN  i will buy them a gift to say thank you for being a part of my day

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that’s fine.  I was in a wedding, where my hair and mu was paid for and the gift was a earring/necklace set to wear for the wedding.  I bought the dress that was $165.  I didn’t think badly of it at all and was completely content with the ‘gift’ and honestly didnt really expect anything.  I rather the bride pay for my hair/mu as a gift, rather than give me a pointless generic bm… I was in another wedding where the dress, hair/mu, earrings and a small clutch were paid for and we ddint really get a ‘gift’ per se.  That was totally fine by me too.  In both cases, I was just happy my friend was getting married and I was part of it.  I didnt expect an additional gift.  If you feel they did a lot for you and WANT to buy them something, then you should.  But if you have not asked much of them, and feel that is enough, I can agree with that. 

For me, my BMs reused dresses they had, so that saved about 150.  But they did pay for their own hair/mu.  They wore shoes they already had, and did throw a shower and bachelorette party. I ended up getting each a pj set, satin robe, glass nail file and earrings for the day.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Since when is everyone entitled to getting a gift?  Nobody should ever expect gifts and we shouldn’t even be expecting them for our wedding. 

Anyway, I think what you’re getting them is plenty, but I would throw in a handwritten card for each girl too.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

they wanted to be part of your wedding  AFTER  you had asked them right?  

and  HOW is it for THEIR  benefit?   i actually cant believe this….why should it cost them anything at all?  

you are begrudging them a gift,  after they spend a fortune on dresses to look good in your wedding photographs…..yep that sounds fair…….

 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@greenmint: No problem.  I too have a small party.  My Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister, and my two BMs are good friends of mine.  I will be paying for their hair, and they all decided they would do their own makeup, but I told them I would pay for that too.  They can wear their own black strapless, knee length dress, and their own black pumps.  I feel like I’m not asking much of them either.  I will probably get them a small gift and note (and perhaps get my sister a little something extra) but other than that I’m not going to go all out.  Plus I’m not a fan of shirts, robes, bags etc that say “Maid of Honour” or “Bridesmaid.”  They’re useless afterwards.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@greenmint:

I’d be pretty satisfied if I were your bm’s!!!!!!!!!!!!  Most gifts I ever got in bridal parties were “self serving” I guess you would say, but it was stuff that I could always use again, and I always had to pay for my own hair and make up!!!  That’s costly, so I’m sure that they will be grateful! You’re doing a lot IMO considering their dresses aren’t that expensive and they didn’t have to dish out a lot of money for your shower, etc. 

 

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