(Closed) What to gift this friend? Can't go to the wedding

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
498 posts
Helper bee

You are not supposed to give a gift to pay back for your plate of food at the wedding so whether or not you go to the wedding, ate food, or took up oxygen at the wedding etc shouldn’t go figuring out what to give her. Just give whatever you feel you can afford and that you like.  She shouldn’t be doing a side by side cost comparison and neither should you. For what it is worth, she realizes you aren’t that close if you did not invite her to your wedding.


Post # 4
10452 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

We usually give $200. 

Post # 5
7417 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

We always give based on relationships. If we can’t attend the wedding we would also gift the same amount that we would have gifted if we had attended.

Post # 6
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MrsBeck:  There’s no perfect solution to this one.  I know a lot of people that totally do side by side comparisons and others that give what they can, and others that don’t gift at all (ick).  But you should give what you can afford – me I would probably give the same that they gifted us.

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