What to give to your parents on your wedding day…?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m glad you asked because I need suggestions too! I like the idea of a digital picture frame, but they can get a little pricey (especially if your family is non-nuclear like mine, more sets of parents = more gifts to give!). Other than that it seems embroidered handkerchiefs are the only other thing I can think of, and that isn’t really "us". 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York

do you have a specific budget in mind?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2009 - Small church ceremony with mountain-view log cabin reception

Are your parents still together or are you looking for two separate gifts?

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I am actually giving my fiance locket cufflinks, and I’m having my Mother-In-Law find old pictures of her parents (FI’s grandparents), who have passed away, to put in them.  What she doesn’t know is that I’m also going to take those pics and put them in a locket necklace for her.  You can the lockets engraved with their initials, too.  You could put any pics in them (you and your Fiance, grandparents, your parents on their wedding day, etc). 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018 - LDS Seattle Temple & Hotel 1000

I agree, what is your budget? I can suggest what we gave (HUGE HIT) but it was pricey.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

Did you take engagement pictures?  Perhaps a framed photo or set of photos of those.  Or, you could get them a really nice picture frame that you can later fill with one of your wedding picture?  Although seemingly generic, I know it’s a gift that parents always like.

My parents aren’t sentimental and they dont like clutter so I hesitate to give them "things"… so we gave them a round of golf at their favorite golf course and a gift certif. for dinner afterwards.  It’s not really a gift they will cherish forever, but I know there may be parents out there like mine that don’t really like "things".

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

It really depends on what type of "gift" you’re going for – something sentimental they’ll have for years or something to say "Thanks for helping me plan the wedding of my dreams, now do something for yourself"…. it realy depends.  We got my in-laws a digital picture frame,  and my dad an engraved frame that says "Dad and Katie" and our wedding date and the plan is to send him a picture of us dancing during the wedding.  Then, because my mom was really instrumental in planning (both monetarily and emotionally) I wanted to get her something that i knew she wanted but would never buy for herself – a new Vera Wang weekender tote. I also got a gift certificate to a great french bistro by my house, slipped that into the pocket in the bag, and wrote a nice note saying that any time she wanted to pack her bags to visit, she’s always welcome.  All of the gifts went over really well! 

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

ktdid, your gift to your mom was AMAZING and meaningful.  I LOVE it!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We are trying to figure this out as well. Here are some of our ideas so far:

 My mom: A weekend getaway. She is doing a lot for the wedding. Weddign are such a memorable day and I would liek to give her a really memorable day and do soemthign nice just the two of us. I’m not sure where we are going yet, but I’d like to make an event of it.

 My Dad: He is the one who has given me a love for photography, so I’d like to do soemthing with pictures. Not realy sure what yet, but maybe an album leading from childhood to the wedding with lots of our memorable moments.

 My fiances parents: They are the harder ones, I’d liek to do soemthign sentimental, but I thin it would be better for my fiance to come up with a meaningful idea, so I’ll let him think about this.

 The other idea we are thinking is doing a thank you dinner with just our parents and siblings the night after teh wedding, to thank them for everything they have done, not sure yet, but it is a possibility

 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018 - Auberge du Soleil

We gave Mr. PN’s mom a digital frame, my mom tickets to the theater and we gave my dad a coffee subscription to citizen bean.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York

we didn’t give our parents anything! 

i’ve always loved this custom book idea that mrs canary wrote about: http://www.weddingbee.com/2007/10/19/return-of-the-nerd/

But honestly I think the best gift is a really heartfelt letter.  

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018 - LDS Seattle Temple & Hotel 1000

I totally ripped off my gift from Peng (thanks Peng!) but I can’t even emphasize enough how obsessed with it my parents are. We decided to write into the budget 2 of the estarling photo frames, the WPF-388B. What makes this frame so perfect for our parents is that it hooks up to the wifi in their house, and I can email pictures to it using an email address unique to the frame. I thought they would like it, but they actually keep it on the kitchen counter so they can see whenever I email them new photos.

I set them up for them and it’s very easy to do, and all of the photos are actually stored online instead of on the frame, so whenever you want to delete them you just log in to the website.

 They love the frames so much, they are giving each otheir own parents a set! Haha, I guess not all grandparents have WI-FI in their house, but mine do. Since we only plan on seeing our families once or twice a year this is a great way to keep them in the loop with everything that is going on. 

 It’s definitely a big investment, but we don’t regret it at all, and I know that our parents get so excited whenever they see new photos show up!

Post # 16
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2009

My parents are divorced, so separate gifts…

For my mother: A weekend get-away to San Francisco (we only live 45min. away). I am making up a small booklet with all of our weekend information. Hotel, dinner reservations etc. Also thinking of getting tickets to a play…

For my father: He loves anything food related! We are getting him a picnic basket for four filled with all the necessary item. Plus inside going to include a gift certificate for cooking lessons.

Fiance’s parents who are married: Not sure yet! If I could afford it I would send them to Disneyland (they love it, lol! ๐Ÿ™‚ But I am still contemplating their gift…they are def harder!

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