(Closed) what to give when you no show?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would beg on my hands and knees and beg for forgiveness cause no gift is going to make up for that.

Sorry for the honesty, but that’s just not cool.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

At least $200 because that really hurts

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@breadandbutterflies:  Ooooo, okay!! Haha, good to hear then.  Well my answer still applies then – they better beg you for forgiveness!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would send a nice gift and also insist on reimbursing the couple for the cost of my meal.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

How rude…she would be an ex friend!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i would send a gift and a card apologizing for not showing up without letting them know in advance. it doesn’t have to be anything big or expensive, but at least a little something. i had a lot of no-shows at my wedding and even tho i’d still be upset, i’d appreciate the gesture.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wish I could send this to the 5 people from my hubby’s family who RSVP’d late and then didn’t show the day of. I can’t tell you how angry I was and still kind of am. They never even sent a card. Yell

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@breadandbutterflies:  How do people do it? Two of the five were a married couple… you think they would know? I wish there was a tactful way to just say “Hey, that was rude. You should cover your plates or atleast send an I’m sorry card.”

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ugh, I can’t even imagine what it would take to make this okay.  Honestly, no gift is going to make up for someone basically saying that my wedding wasn’t important to them, even though they were close enough to get invited, and had replied that they were coming. I think it’s basically a friendship-ender for me, and I may even send whatever gift they sent me back to them.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I never understand the people who RSVP super late, and then STILL don’t show up! It boggles my mind!

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I would seriously considering breaking down for her how much money her thoughtlessness cost you so that she understands what she is doing should she decide to RSVO and the not show for another wedding in the future.

She should send you at least as nice of a gift as she would’ve given if she had come, but possibly even better because that’s just not ok.

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