(Closed) What to make of this?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1154 posts
Bumble bee

That would have definitely hurt my feelings.  But i can see how in some circumstances she might not have meant/been aware of how she was coming off.  Some people are just kind of clueless.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

… if she’s been acting like this only since you got engaged, it’s possible. It’s also possible that she REALLY didn’t want it around. I leave baked goods at work all the time because I don’t want to eat them, but I don’t want to make a big deal of the fact that I started WW again.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think its passive agressive imo.  I mean, if she didn’t want to keep them in the house, than why not put them out for others to eat?  Usually I am one to let things roll off my back.  But at this, I don’t think I would’ve. I mean you worked hard on those lemon tarts, I would’ve walked over to where she put the container and announced loudly “oh you forgot mine! I will just put there here” and make space.

I’d call her out and ask her about it. If she didn’t mean anything by it, then she needs to check herself and realize that she was being rude and hurtful and that is unacceptable.  If she is jealous, then she needs to put on her big girl pants and get over it. 

If I were you, I just wouldn’t mention anything about the engagement or wedding in her presence.

If this happen to me, I probably would’ve smashed a tart in her face after the 2nd time she told me to take the tarts LOL!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Sounds like she might have a bit of an issue with the engagment but that doesn’t mean she has to be rude to you – especially if she’s not going to be mature and actually talk about it with you. I’d be upset about it if I was treated like that.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

the only way you’ll know for sure is if you talk to her….don’t make any assumptions…express your feelings in a non-accusing manner….and get her feedback on it.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I honestly think she may be having a bad day or something like that.  Seriously, not all non-engaged women are jealous of us being engaged or anything like that.  I wasn’t jealous of my engaged or married friends when I was unattached. 

Maybe it was pms or a bad day or she’s really upset over maybe blowing her diet over the holidays. 

I wouldn’t read too much into it unless this becomes a pattern of sorts of her behavior and then I’d talk to her about it and work thru it.    

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