Post # 1
For our escort cards, I bought these elephant card holders.
We don’t have any sort of theme that we’re trying to stick to or anything–we are just choosing things that are personal to us and special to our families. My grandmother passed away two years ago and she loved elephants and collected elephant figurines, so when I saw these card holders I knew we had to use them in her honor. Only my closest family/friends know what the elephants represent to us, but I think a lot of people know elephants are supposed to be a lucky charm of sorts.
So, I was planning to put a sign near the escort cards to explain why we chose elephants because i think without knowing the story, it seems like an odd, out of place decoration. I am very tempted to put in the sign explaining that they are in honor of my grandmother, who loved elephants. But i’m not sure if that’s kind of a morbid way to begin a reception.
So, I was thinking we could write something a little more vague, something along the lines of: “Elephants are not only special to the Bride’s family, but they are also a symbol of luck. We hope that these elephants bring you luck in life and in love!” orrr we could ask for advice for being lucky in love/life? I think that it could be stated more eloquently (I’m up for suggestions, bees!), but you get the idea.
What do you think we should do? What should we write on the sign?
Post # 3
@PrincessBride27: I wouldn’t write anything just use them and maybe put a photo of your grandma on the table with the place cards, no one needs to know why you went with elephants but everyone in your family will know and love the fact that you included her memory in your day.
Post # 4
i think the elephants are super cute! i dont feel like you need to tell anyone why you chose them but at the same time i think the story behind them is nice and not morbid at all… so if you wanted to tell them the story i say go for it 🙂
Post # 5
I voted other because it’s not morbid, it’s just that an explanation is a little unneccesary. I really like your idea though!
Post # 6
sweet idea, just go for it, as long as you/ your loved ones know the meaning
Post # 7
Thank you!! I just hope people aren’t left wondering what the connection is. I feel like I might wonder/be confused by them, but I’m also in the throws of planning so I tend overanalyze everything at weddings.
Post # 8
@PrincessBride27: I agree that there is no need to explain their use, but that they are just fine to use.
Post # 9
I don’t think you need any description. I think people that don’t know the background would think they were cute. But if you wanted to say something, maybe “These elephants represent my grandmother who is no longer with us. They were her favorite animal.” And then have a picture of her. But I really don’t think a desciption is necessary.
Post # 10
If I saw them at a wedding I was attending I’d just think they were cute and figure that was why the couple wanted them and that maybe they like elephants. Who doesn’t? Unless it’s really important to you that they know, I don’t think you need to.
You could always have your MC mention that they are in memory.
Post # 11
The last thing on my mind is when I see elephants is “morbid.”
Mentioning that they’re in remembrance of your grandma doesn’t make me think of death either, it makes me think of the good relationship you must have had with your grandma and also the cycle of life through the generations.
These are lovely and not morbid at all.
I really thought this thread was going to involve something with skulls or “death do us part” or something.
By The Way if you just have elephants and don’t mention why, I’m going to assume that you like elephants, and move on. It really wouldn’t strike me as “odd.” Either way you go about this will be perfectly good.
Post # 12
I don’t think there is anything wrong with mentioning that the elephants are meant to honor your late grandmother. I think it is a sweet touch. It’s no more morbid than people who honor family members who have passed in other ways. A wedding is about celebrating urge beginning of your union with loved ones. Just because they can’t be physically present doesn’t mean you can’t include them in a special way.
Post # 13
@PrincessBride27: I actually really like that you’re using them because of your grandmother. I would put something like “Bride’s grandma, Grammie, loved to collect elephant figurines. We hope you enjoy this sign of good luck in her memory.” I don’t think mentioning her is morbid at all.
Post # 14
@PrincessBride27: You don’t have to explain anything, you could just put “lucky in love” or nothing at all!