Post # 1
I’m sure I can ask the wedding coordinator at our venue this question, but wanted to check in here first (at the risk of sounding like a total idiot)
One of our very good friends got ordained just to perform our ceremony. We have the whole thing scripted out and are anticipating that he’ll do a great job. He asked me last night if during the wedding rehearsal if he is supposed to read it word for word, just like he would during the real deal. This would include our vows and ring exchange etc.
I have to laugh, because I HAVE NO IDEA! I drew a complete blank. I’ve been in 3 other weddings, and for the life of me can’t remember if the officiant went through the whole ceremony or just skimmed over it previously.
Since it is his first time, we want him to be totally comfortable, but I’m not sure I want to go through the vows and what not verbatim until the ceremony itself. If we take out the ring exchange and the vows, that doesn’t leave much more for him to read other than the welcome and his “words of wisdom” for lack of a better term, which we don’t want to hear til the wedding day also (he’s so close to us we want to save it for the ceremony.
I know this isn’t a major issue, but any thoughts on this – what would an officiant normally do?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t read through it. I’m sure he is practicing it himself but to go through the whole ceremony during the rehearsal isn’t necessary. A rehearsal should just basically help everyone understand where they go and what will be happening.
Post # 4
We basically practiced just the order of things happening. He read like a sentence or two and then would tell us after that what would happen next. If it was word for word it would take longer and it is most likely unnecessary to do the whole thing.
Post # 5
The officiant doesn’t usually read the ceremony word-for-word. They’ll read pieces and sometimes parts that are verbal cues, but mostly they summarize. 🙂
Post # 6
I hope we aren’t supposed to go through the whole ceremony at the rehearsal because our officiant won’t even be there!
Post # 7
We’ll just try to do a ‘walk through’… basically the order of the processional with music, where people have to stand/sit. A few words (not word for word), and then a go over the order of things. I just want to get a gist of how long it’ll be.
Post # 8
Well, normally I start by having everyone stand where they will stand during the ceremony.
Then I explain the parts of the ceremony. – Welcome to guests, charge to the couple, vows, readings or unity parts
I walk the couple through the unity ceremony – sand, rose, handfasting… whatever it is.
Then we move to the ring exchange….
This is when I explain to the Couples Honored Attendants when I will ask for the rings and who I will ask first. What I will say and how to hand the rings over.
Then I move on to prayers/readings, pronouncement and introduction of couple.
Now we are moving to the recessional part of who leaves first and how to time the recessional to the music.
Once everyone has left. I ask them to turn around and do the processional with the music. Again explaining the timing with walking with the music.
Then we go through the ceremony again, like before…. but smoother.
Post # 9
We had an ordained friend do our ceremony (he is in seminary – this was his first!) and we mostly just went through the motions. When we got to any speaking parts, he just said “I’ll say the message – blah blah blah. They’ll say their vows – blah blah blah”. It kept the mood light (because I’ve seen things get tense in rehearsals) and didn’t take too long. We went through the whoooole thing (processional and recessional included) twice.