Post # 17
We are in your boat so we just didnt register. People have asked and I just said we dont “need” anything so they said “Ok so cash?” and I smiled and said sure. I didnt wanna be rude and ask for honeymoon cash so we heard that if u dont register people just assume to bring cash. We will see if that works if not we will be fine with whatever we get since we didnt register its our bad.
Post # 18
Just curious to those who heard honeymoon registry is tacky, did they give a reason? The only reason we didnt do one was becauze they charge a fee so if someone gives $100, we would get $93 of it. I talked to friends and they agreed they would much rather us get the full $100.
Post # 19
I feel like most people these days are in this prediciment.
We registered for nicer versions of things we had. We had a vaccume, but registered for a shark. We had a toaster, but registered for a nice, chrome 4 slice one. We basically upgraded the cheap things we bought for ourself (I remember, specifically, buying my old toaster for 5 dollars off of a clearance rack) to things that would last us for a while. And 600 thread count sheets. Just because.
Post # 20
@Ms.BlueEyesDC: We are in a similar boat with a home and all we think we require. Plus, we are having a destination wedding out of province as well as a renewal in province (in a venue where gifts cannot feasibly be toted along). It has been tricky to contemplate any kind of registry! I found some earlier threads on registries and looked into many options. I am now working on a honeyfund.com account (yet unpublished).
So far, so good. Honeyfund is free, we can make up various ‘units’ toward ‘items’ on our ‘list’ that people donate to as opposed to buying gifts. We can even make ‘units’ toward charity if we like. So far we have made units toward honeymoon items (our flights, accomodations, etc) as well as toward our home renovations (several needs such as a new roof and a big renovation we need to make in order to combine our kids under one roof). I’m just sorting out the pictures to go with these items.
Apparently, the money donated goes directly to us (to a paypal account we’ve created) and can be withdrawn/used as soon as it is donated as opposed to having to wait. Honeyfund helps to keep track of what people gave so that we can send thank yous out to people too. I like that it lets people have a choice of what to donate toward for us…a honeymoon, or our home.
I plan to use our url for all occasions associated with the wedding (ie. showers, weddding, renewal) as an easy way to avoid getting a bunch of gifts we cannot use, or having to tote gifts on a plane, or having guests wonder how to give a gift when they are in a venue that just can’t support gift-giving.
Post # 21
We were just like you. I had bought a home 4 years earlier and Darling Husband had also lived on his own for some time. We registered for upgraded stuff. New pots and pans, a kitchen aid mixer (no way was I going to buy a $350 mixer normally), nice sheets. We also registered for outdoor equipment, rakes, new hose and hose reel, pruning sheers, tools for Darling Husband. Husband and I are so practical and yes people complained that we didn’t have a ton on our registry but it worked out just fine.
Post # 22
SO suggested if we should add, items for a pet. We are planning on getting one right after the honeymoon . We already talked to the breeder and was told they usually have a litter right around our wedding. Has anyone seen this on someone’s registry?
Post # 23
@Ms.BlueEyesDC: Yes I have…on honeyfund you can set up any kind of fund that you desire 🙂
Post # 24
Registering is optional.
If you need nothing today that’s fine but you will down the road. Towels & sheets wear out or get stained with bleach, etc. Plates get dropped, glasses chipped. Vacuum cleaners break. You get the idea…
See yourself ten years down the road… just because you get it today it doesn’t mean you have to use it.
I would do things like dish towels, nice vases, storage items, nice throws, candles or specialty cookware. A nice vacuum. Lowe’s or Home Depot is a good idea, too. Even if you moved into a brand new home you will need to do all sorts of upkeep as time goes on. Think things like garden hose, paint, tools, etc.
Or you can just leave it up to your guests. I know someone who didn’t register and she got some great stuff. 🙂
Post # 25
I would just make a small registry of things you could upgrade and if people ask, have your family say “oh they’re really hoping to do X renovation on their house, they already have pretty much everything else they need” or whatever. People will get the hint.
Post # 26
I work at a wedding planning company, and from my experience, if you don’t create a registry, people won’t know what to get you, so they’ll just give you cash. I’d say for couples who don’t have a registry, 20% of the gifts they got were actual packages, and 80% was just envelopes, presumably full of cash.
Post # 27
Do a cash registry – you can set up gift items online that will let your guests know what you will be spending the cash on (like yoga lessons or skydiving)
Post # 28
@Ms.BlueEyesDC: do you want to do any work on your house? How about Home Depot gift cards! Or specific house things you’d like to have from Home Depot. Then you can get plants, garden tool, doors, door knobs, lamps, lighting, faucets, crown molding, anything!! We just bought a house too 😉 and will be registering for Home Depot gift cards… because we have ALL the kitchen appliances and dishes etc. But we dont own a single yard tool lol. AND I would love to put new doors inside the house, and get all new light fixtures etc.
Post # 29
Upgrades of items. I got most of my household items from either the Dollar Store or from the Elderly woman I tutor when she downsized…. I think the average age of my kitchen might be older than I am…
I also put an Ikea Request since they have no registry, we wanted some stuff from there, I might put one for Home Depot after the suggestions I’ve seen here 🙂 We need to run the water line to our fridge to make the icemaker functional, but I’m not lazy enough to justify that expense on my own…
Post # 30
@FutureMrsMcLaughin: i added some items from home depot to the registry
Post # 31
you can actually register at Home Depot or Lowes for things you need for the house/garden. Other suggestion is for “events”…dinners out, spa day, concert tickets, sporting event tickets, etc.
These are your friends…they should know what you like!