(Closed) what to say to people who ask too much..(money)

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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5009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’ve never really had an issue with it, but I’m a civil servant so anyone who knows my job title and how long I’ve worked there can look up my salary online (the same will be true of Darling Husband from next month).

From the other side, I do find it odd when people are touchy about other people knowing how much they earn. What difference does it make?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

*confused look* “Why do you ask?”

Put it back on them. Put THEM on the spot. They’ll probably stammer something about just wondering or knowing someone looking in that field. Then you could just say something about “I know there is a wide range of salaries in his field. I wouldn’t want to give you bad information.”

And… topic change! Always the key – topic change.

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’d just be blunt and tell them it’s really none of their business and fiance and I don’t discuss how much we make with other people. 

What a rude question to ask someone. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I had an ex who asked my cousin how much money he makes… I about DIED!! I was sooo mortified! The only way it is ever acceptible to ask such a thing is if you are in persuing the same career and are asking a mentor whom you are very close with. But even then you have to ask very delicately. I think the response you gave is very polite and appropriate. 🙂

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would never ask anyone how much money they make, but I honestly do not care if people ask me how much I make. All you have to do is google my employeer, go to 2012 pay scale and viola! You can see exactly how much I make, how much I pay for insurance, which benefits I get, how much of my salary goes to retirement, etc.

Same with FI’s job. You can see exactly how much he makes online. Maybe if I made a lot of money and it wasn’t public knowledge I’d feel differently, but as it stands now I really don’t care.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@golddie123:  I’m not saying that someone would go out of their way to do so, but government pay scales are routinely published and rigidly stuck to, therefore my salary is a matter of public record (as are the salaries of everyone else who is a permanent civil servant).

Heck! Our pay rises (or lack thereof) have been discussed openly in Parliament as part of the budget!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@SpecialSundae:  This is how it is with my FI’s job. Everything is public knowledge.

 

As for my job, most people don’t even need to ask how much I make as there is only a certain range (very well known in my area) for how much I can make. Given my age and experience most people could easily guess my pay without ever having to look it up.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@golddie123:  I’ve asked people before out of curiosity or because they were looking at buying a house or something similar. It didn’t seem rude to me because salaries are so public in my field.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Even my own mother doesn’t know my annual salary.  The only people that know outside management and HR at work are my Darling Husband and me.  It’s no one else’s business.

Post # 16
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5009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

Just out of curiosity, why are people secretive about their salaries?

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