(Closed) What to say when people ask about your wedding when you hated it?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

most people asking about your wedding are just being polite, they aren’t going to press you for loads of details or anything.

you could say something like “It was a bit overwhelming tbh, but I’m so happy to be Mr. Lizstarlight’s wife. We’re really enjoying being married”.  that way you aren’t being dishonest about your experience of the wedding, but you also aren’t creating unnecessarily awkward situations with people who are essentially making smalltalk. 

my friends know i didn’t like my wedding, but they knew i wasn’t going to like it beforehand. i’m not a party person and my husband wanted a wedding, so it was clear from the get-go that it was going to be a really difficult day for me. *shrugs* 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Wow bee, sorry for your losses, and all the drama that occurred on your wedding day. I think you are fine with the one liner ‘my wedding day was such a blur, but I LOVE married life’. After a month or so people will forget stop asking.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Wow shitty. I can relate, we also had a few deaths and selfish relatives. I hated our reception but at least our ceremony went well. Keep your chin up, the “how was the wedding” questions don’t last long, a month or two at the most. Are you still friends with your bridesmaids? It doesn’t sound like they are very supportive, during what sounds like a very stressful occasion.

Post # 5
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Honey bee

I can relate to this….

My stepmom passed away a few months before the wedding so my dad was a mess and my Mother-In-Law got into a serious car accident a week before the wedding and had to go to rehab so she couldn’t come and Father-In-Law didn’t want to leave her so he also didn’t come.  I felt awful for my H and offered up the idea of rescheduling, but he didn’t want to do that.  

We did what we could to make them feel included (we Skyped them in during the ceremony), but it just wasn’t the same and he was a mess the whole day and took a lot of his frustrations out on me, which in turn made me feel a lot of resentment about the wedding.

However, I tried to focus on the good parts so that I didn’t get too upset.  That’s all you can do.  Focus on the positives and try to move past it.  You are married and that’s the most positive part of it!  But I also understand why you are upset.  

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

I can certainly understand why a lot of things surrounding your wedding, are things you would like to forget. 

People who ask you, are just trying to be nice and positive, so just be nice back. If they are not the ones wo contributed to the lousiness of the day, don’t make them uncomfortable. 

Say “It was quite a day, being married now is very nice.” Keep it upbeat.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper

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lizstarlight22 :  

Yes, well done you . Often when people  say they hated their wedding here they mean their hair was a bit out iof place or the photographs didn’t turn  out as well as they hoped , but you have real reasons to hate yours ! 

Bloody selfish rude bridesmaids,  what were they thinking ! And as for your mum, well , as you said she must have  gone temporarily loopy . Acrylic paint  and cotton balls ……..

 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

I didn’t hate mine but it was a full weekend and a lot of stress. When people asked me about it I said something like ‘it was great but I’m SO GLAD it’s over’ haha. It probably came off bad but it was truthful 

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