Post # 1
So, my very good friend asked me to be her Matron of Honor and I’m thrilled! So, thrilled in fact that I’ve already started to write my moh speech. It was going really well, I had my intro, my congrats, how I know the bride, and a small funny story. Then came the time to address both the bride and groom and give heartfelt congratulations and well wishes to their marriage and then it dawned on me, I DON’T KNOW THE GROOM! Seriously, I know his name and that is it!
My friend is super sweet and so he must be equally awesome, but I have no idea??? She’s always been very private about her personal life especially her relationships. She always comes solo to get togethers and never invites us to do things with them. Which, does tend to bother me, but I figured why push the issue?
Anyways, aside from all that my real issue is how the hell do I sound remotely sincere about the relationship and future when I can attest to absolutely nothing regarding their “courtship”. I don’t even know how they met? She kept him secret for almost a year before telling anyone!?!
Any advice bees?
Post # 3
@NikkiKillpretty: I would be honest and say something like
“While I don’t know you that well, Bob, I know my friend and that she is an amazing person with incredible taste, so I am really looking forward to getting to know the awesome person you must be in the years to come. May your life be full of sparkly rainbows.” (Or, you know, whatever.)
Post # 4
… And she seems so happy in her new life with John Smith!!
(what else could you say?)
Post # 5
@NikkiKillpretty: Normally, I don’t expect the Maid/Matron of Honor to talk much about the groom in her speech. You could just say something like:
“John, the fact that Suzy knew you were the one means you have a wonderful future in front of you. We all love you both and are so excited to celebrate your marriage.”
My theory with toasts is the shorter, the better, so no one will be wishing you said more/elaborated.
Post # 6
I would just say how happy you are for them as a couple and that you’ve seen the joy he brings into her life. Since you are the Maid/Matron of Honor, people will expect it to be mostly about the bride anyway.
Post # 7
Thanks for the feed back everyone!
Post # 8
@NikkiKillpretty: Never, ever say ” I don’t know the groom (the deceased at a funeral) etc. It is grating for the person or the family to hear.
Just end by saying you are so happy for her that she met _____ the love of her life.
Post # 9
@NikkiKillpretty: havimg chosen you as Maid/Matron of Honor, I would think she should feel comfortable enoughI with you to discuss how they met etc. then you could tell her how you remember about having hidden him from you for a year and ask about the reason and who knew about it. If it turns out, it’s a “good” reason and she really didn’t introduce him to anyone for a year, I think you could mention that as a joke. Doesn’t work if he is so ugly she was scared to present him 😉 but else, maybe you could be like:
What can I say about your relationship? You were so in love with Kyle from the beginning that you wanted to keep him all for yourself. Literally. For a whole year! (and the guests would probably relate to this and smile ;)) but having seen you together, I can testify that it obviously worked well, you’re the cutest couple and I am so glad to witness this day and officially testifying to the fact that you’ll get to keep each other for the rest of your lifes.
it doesn’t need to be that, just to show that I think you could address it in some way without being awkward.