- 3 years ago
Hi Bees, I need some guidance.
My first year of marriage has been stressful and painful to say the least. I love my husband very much and feel blessed that he has stuck with me through this bullshit. I’m not going to cover all of it, this is mainly a work-related question.
As with many people, our immediate goals were to get a house in March once our rent came up, get a dog, have a kid. Easy goals.
Husband was laid off the day before our wedding in May and has been unemployed since. I was working at a job that would not cover all our bills so I got a new job in September. Job pays more but not enough to cover everything, but has definitely helped. Husband pays what he can from his unemployment stash. Found out in November that I have endometriosis cysts. Find out that Dr in town thinks it’s too extensive and I need to see a specialist 3-4 hrs away. Travel to New dr. Do surgery and surprise, I have stage 4 endometriosis and oh, by the way it is far far worse than he imagined and I’ll need to have surgery again in 2 months with a recovery timeframe of 4-6 weeks.
At my work, I get 15 days of PTO a year. I’ve already used 10 due to all the tests and Dr appt. I can’t take half days nor can I work from home, so I now only have 5 days of PTO left. Just had my post-op apt with doctor and I’ll need to come in 5 more times before surgery.
Short Term Disability takes affect 14 days after approval and even then, it only covers 60% of my income. So there will be 2 weeks were I will get my pay docked since I’m on salary.
And the goal of getting a house is completely out the window, of course. I can’t afford a house at this time. My apartment is raising the rent $105/m starting in April (yikes) and husband is…. Being very stubborn with the job finding. Anyhoo, that’s a thread for another time.
My question to you: I won’t be covered by FMLA unless I work at job for a yearr so should I try to push my surgery back 6 months? Should I bring up my concerns to HR that I think they’re going to fire me bc I’m taking so many days off for Dr visits that I think I need to be covered by FMLA?? Do you think they’d tell me if they needed to lay me off? I’m not sure what the best course of action is to do right now. The longer I put this off, the more my fertility is going to suffer but I’m terrified I’m going to be fired bc I’m not there to do the work I was hired for.
If anyone has gone through something similar, I’d love to hear. Thanks for your help 🙂