(Closed) What to tell HR about surgery – so scared

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I know you said it was another thread, but your husband needs a job. Bartending, Walmart, Uber, anything will help.

Other than that, hopefully someone else can help on the days off/HR/postponing the surgery issue, because it sounds different to where I am.  Using PTO for doctors appointments sounds awful, and potentially being fired for having surgery?  Yikes, good luck.

 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Do you not get sick leave? I’m a uk bee who works in HR. Here you’d get stat sick pay at least but most places would give full pay. 

My advice would be tell them the truth – you need this for your health. 

Id also tell hubby to get off his arse and get a job pulling pints if he has to right now? 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Hubby needs ot bring in income. Yesterday.

 

Short Term Disability usually goes hand in hand with FMLA- ie. if you’re on FMLA you can apply for STD, but like FMLA you usually need to be employed for a year before it comes into affect.

I would talk to HR, maybe they’ll let you take the unpaid time, but do be aware that they may just let you go now, knowing you’ll be getting the surgery and will need to hire someone to replace you.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

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Twizbe :  As an example, I had a ‘generous’ amount of sick leave by US standards, and that was 7 days a year. 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

You have hit upon the reason I am so opposed to the entire concept of PTO vs separate pools of vacation, personal days, and sick leave.

I completely understand. I work for a small US company that provides 13 PTO days, and I have had multiple surgeries while working there. I have had outpatient procedures that have caused me to miss several days and two major surgeries requiring week-long inpatient hospitalizations with 2-3 month recuperations.

My company is not bound to follow FMLA rules due to its small size. However, I am very grateful that my employer was willing to allow me to take leave without pay during those times. As a side note, if I were still single (as I was for the majority of my surgeries throughout my life), I would have been in a much more difficult position. My income is needed for our family expenses, but we were able to use savings to supplement my husband’s income until I could return to work.

I would encourage you to be very candid with your company’s HR department to find out what counsel they will offer you regarding your situation. I would do my best to not make medical decisions based upon my employment. If it’s OK to wait to have your next surgery, then you can consider doing that. However, if your doctor advises against it, I would proceed with his or her recommendations.

I wish you the best!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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nautilusl2 :  While that is good news, go tell your husband to find a damn job!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Tell your husband to be a grown up and find a damn job!

He needs any sort of job until he finds one in his field. To be honest, it sounds like he’s putting you in a really tough spot by being so stubborn. Tell him he has no choice but to work, he’s not 15 anymore!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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nautilusl2 :  I’m glad your HR department was understanding.  I was going to post (before I read your update) to talk to HR because they may be more accomodating than you would think depending on the situation.

I have a couple of friends that work in HR.  They are much more understanding when you need to use FMLA before you technically earned it if it has to do with medical problems.  We had a guy that found out he had testicular cancer a few months after he was hired.  He needed surgery, chemo and radiation and needed to obviously take time off.  The company granted that time (without pay since he hadn’t taken out STD either).  Now if you wanted to take time off for a cruise or extended honeymoon, they would not have been as accomodating.

And I have to agree with the others, why is your husband so stubborn about getting a job?  When I got laid off, I was ready to go back to Starbucks, where I worked when i was in college.  I don’t think it’s fair that he’s expecting you to be the bread winner.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

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nautilusl2 :  I’m so glad to hear that your conversation with HR went so well. I thought it would. Please keep us posted as to how things go for you regarding your upcoming surgery. I am trusting that that also will go well for you.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

 Yep. Your hubby needs to find 2 jobs actually; to pay all of the bills while you’re off of work healing yourself and to take away your stress. Being off since May is too long without a job. 

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