(Closed) What to tell my father?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

He’s your dad, why wouldn’t you just tell him?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think you’re going to have to tell him … or at least tell him that your doctor (don’t have to say which one) thinks you should scale back your running and focus on other forms of exercise. Maybe he won’t press you for details.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

@MarryMeTiffany:  HAHAH! I know exactly what you mean by feeling like it’s telling your father that you are having lots of sex at a certain time. AWKWARD!! But, I do think that it is best that you tell your father. You don’t have to tell him that you are trying right now– I would just say that you and your husband have discussed starting to TTC in the next few months, so you are going to scale back your running now and not do the marathon. I know it is awkward, but at the end of the day, the safety & health of your future baby is what is important. if your doc wants you to cut back, then it is probably best.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

@MarryMeTiffany:  I didn’t tell anyone we were TTC either, so I understand!  Could you be vague about it – and not say TTC directly – maybe say something like “we are hoping to have a baby soon, and my doctor said I should scale back my running and focus on other types of exercise “.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

@MarryMeTiffany:  If you do get pregnant, would you still go to cheer him on for the marathon? Was he running it with you or just training for it? You could still book the hotel and cancel later. There’s usually a cancellation policy of up to 24 hours prior. 

As for cutting back on running, would you be able to tell him that you have to postpone running the marathon until next year due to an injury? You could always tell him that your IT band started really acting up. The more miles you run with a sore IT band, the worse that injury gets…so it might be something that you could try to use as an excuse!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MarryMeTiffany:  He would be so happy though! He obviously knows you’re having sex. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Ugh I know what you mean!! I even cringe at the thought of my wedding day my dad knowing I’m having sex!! Even though it won’t be my first time but he doesn’t know that!! LOL Maybe tell your mom and ask her to tell your dad if it’s less wierd telling her?

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

tell your dad that your doctor asked you to take it easy. You dont have to tell him you are trying if you are not ready to do so.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Have you had a really in depth conversation with your doctor about your running? If you have, then ignore my comment. But if not, I would schedule an appointment with your doctor to specifically talk about this concern. As long as you are running responsbily(not over training, eating properly and enough, etc.) it should not interfere with your ability to concieve. If you have been running for a number of years and regularily there is no reason you have to stop now, just slow down a bit if you’re getting tired. That said, once you do concieve you may find running more difficult than it was before and need to slow down/take some time off.

(Please do not take this comment the wrong way, but I think it is something worth mentionning)

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I was actually in almost this exact situation with my dad while ttc.  I still ran, but trained for shorter or less intense events.  I told my dad a few ‘excuses’ over the timeframe….1- that I wanted to focus on getting my time down, so I wanted to run shorter races, and 2- that I was having some knee trouble, and needed to not push myself too hard (could add doctors orders here too).  Good luck!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@NYC.BOS.CHI:  I agree about having a more in depth conversation, my SIL ran marathons and triathalons and had no problems conceiving. She continued running throughout her pregnancy and had a healthy baby and an easy delivery. And a quick google search (okay, it’s not talking to a doctor, but still) shows health artcles saying it shouldn’t be a problem, I’m wondering if your doctor is being overly cautious here.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I’ll chime in on the “will running affect your ability to concieve” angle.  I’m unfortunately way too familiar with this topic, and the bottom line is that everyone is different.  Some women can get pregnant during intense training (and continue marathoning while pregnant), and some women won’t and finally will conceieve if they reduce or stop training.  There are conditions affecting ttc (think pcos) that are helped by exercise, and there are conditions that are exacerbated by intense exercise (think low progesterone, and yes, delayed O).  Ultimately every woman has to decide for herself, and do some trial and error, if it’s taking longer than expected to conceive. 

For me, I trained fairly hard the first maybe 4 months of ttc, and then gradually reduced my effort as ttc was taking longer and longer.  My logical bottom line was that I wanted to exercise to a level that maintained my health, but not that stressed my body.  I wanted my body to feel that it had all the resources necessary to create and sustain a healthy pregnancy.

I highly recommend browsing the Runner’s World Women’s Forums, as there are a lot of threads over there on such topics.  Good luck TTC!

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