- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016
I’m attending a wedding this summer at The Prado in San Diego. Looks like a fancy venue, and the guidance I got from the mother of the bride is that it’s, “not as formal as her sister’s wedding.” That wedding was black tie requested. MOB said cocktail attire is fine for this one. Then again, at the previous wedding the rehearsal dinner was listed as business casual but most guests turned up in sparkly cocktail dresses and gowns and formal suits for the men, so I’m never sure what to wear to events with this crowd. The ceremony’s at 4:00 PM with reception to follow. The invitations are in the color scheme of the wedding, navy and coral, but I think qualify as formal invitations (simple design, paper so thick I could make a shiv out of it, fancy script font, formal language).
I hate the way cocktail dresses fit me. They accentuate the fact that I have short, stubby legs and giant hips since they end at the worst point possible on me. But it seems like only grandmas and aunties can get away with long dresses at an otherwise non-black tie event. I’m about three decades too young to qualify.
I happen to have a long, formal dress that I got for a steal ($279 dress for only $107!). I was really hoping to wear that. Now I’m not sure if it’ll be too formal, and on top of that it’s also the same color as the bridesmaids dresses (navy blue), so I’m hesitant to wear it. It fits me perfectly and, unlike most articles of clothing since I recently gained weight, it actually makes me feel good about how I look. For once I look like I actually have a shape other than “rotund.” To make matters worse, I don’t really have money in the budget to buy a new dress, especially since we’re already spending about $2k to attend and I’m pretty close to broke.
The dress looks nowhere near as va-va-voomey on me as it does on the model. That’s not me in the other picture, but the dress fits me about the same. It really holds in my lumps and bumps and just shows curves! I was thinking of removing the flowery bottom piece and replacing it with something less fancy, like chiffon. The style really accentuates my curves and my unique proportions (long torso and short legs), whereas a shorter dress makes me look like a mutant who’s all torso and no leg.
Will I look stupid if I’m wearing the same color as the bridesmaids? Or if everyone else my age is wearing short cocktail dresses? Is potentially being over-dressed better than being under-dressed or uncomfortable the whole night? Should I even care as long as I’m clean and am presentable? Help!