(Closed) What to wear as a guest

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you try to match your outfit to the wedding colors?
    Yes, that is brilliant! : (2 votes)
    3 %
    No, why would I do that? : (63 votes)
    93 %
    Other, I'll explain below! : (3 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    As a guest, I have never once tried to match the wedding colors, nor would it ever occur to me to do so. Guests won’t even know what they are until they arrive anyway. Wear something dressy and don’t worry about the color.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I try to complement, but not match. My friend had “fall colors” for the wedding party, so I stayed away from the chocolate brown and magenta colors that the wedding party wore, but kept the same “theme” by wearing a rusty-red dress.

    Post # 5
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Nope i tend to match the fanciness of the event more than anything.

    Post # 6
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    1585 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I seriously want people to wear black to my wedding.  That way the people in the wedding party stand out in all the pictures etc.  I think that wearing black creates a perfect “backdrop” for the evening.

    Post # 7
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    2475 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Nope, that has never really even occurred to me to do that.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    No, I’ve never tried to match to the colors.  I agree with @ejs4y8 in I try to match with the formality of the wedding itself.

    Post # 10
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    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    In our families I’ve found that guests who wear the wedding colors are either part of the bridal party or immediately related to them. We’ve had lots of friends ask us what are our colors because they are making sure not to match.

    Post # 11
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    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Guests may get a clue to your wedding colors based on your invitation.  Our invites were off-white with grey ink, b/c our main color was grey.  My nosy aunts all called asking for our colors, haha. 

    I think the only “rule” is no white, no black, and no red.  No white b/c you shouldn’t compete with the bride.  The no black rule is older b/c black is for funerals, but now black is acceptable.  The no red rule is b/c hookers wear red??  Unless it’s an Asian wedding, in which case red is good luck.

    My cousin wore a red dress to my sister’s wedding and she stands out in every pic, not in a good way.  I must have asked her 3 times what she was wearing to my wedding, haha.  (Fuschia) 

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Actually red symbolizes love and passion. There is no law prohibiting anyone from wearing it. White for Asians is considered taboo because it is a color for mourning. Guests can wear black if they choose. Men wear black tuxes/suits to everything sicne it’s expected and women are starting to wear black bridesmaid dresses quite frequently. Why it would be taboo for anyone else is a double standard that makes no sense as it is not a breach of etiquette.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I said no but the thing is Im going to a wedding in a few weeks that Fiance is a groomsman in and I asked the bride what colors the groomsman would be wearing so I dont clash with my Fiance in the pictures him and I take together!

    Post # 15
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    i usually don’t pay attention to colors when i’m getting ready for a wedding. i am encouraging my friends to wear pink (which is my color) for my wedding… because i can never see too much pink!

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Nope. As a guest, how often are we in wedding pictures, anyway?

    I just try to shy away from white/ivory and the wedding colors, if I know them, so I don’t match the wedding party.

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