Post # 1
This isn’t wedding related at all but I thought this would be the appropriate forum anyway. I’m Jewish also but more culturally than as a religion. Although I’ve been to Israel several times for a variety of reasons, I don’t go to temple at all in my normal life. I haven’t been to a bar or mat mitzvah since I was 13. I’m going to one this Saturday and have no idea what adults wear to these. This is for the daughter of someone in my SO’s extended family. His immediate family and that side of the family haven’t spoken in a a decade and are using this Bat Mitzvah to finally start speaking again. So in the three years that I’ve been with my SO, I’ve never met anyone from that side of his family. Obviously I want to make a good impression and not be kicked out for a fashion faux pas. The ceremony is at 4 and the reception is at a country club. I think they’re pretty reform. Any suggestions?? I was thinking a simple Calvin Klein black shift dress with gold zipper details. It’s to my knees but has a slit that reveals some leg when I sit. And strappy black heals. Also a black jacket. Would that be ok or should I go more conservative? I appreciate any advice! Thanks!
Post # 3
I personally always like to error on the conservitive side, especially when I know there are going to be grandparents around. Just my opinion. to your knees should be okay, but I would worry about the slit depending on how high it is
Post # 4
That sounds fine, as long as you keep your shoulders covered during the service. I think a dress with a jacket is great because then you can ditch the jacket at the reception.
For a Reform congregation, I think you’re fine with a knee-length dress/skirt. I wouldn’t go further up the thigh though.
Post # 5
I can’t comment specifically on the reform Jewish requirements, but I suppose you should look at this as entering a house of worship and dress accordingly.
For most places of worship, that means that your shoulders should be covered and your hemline shouldn’t be too high. Knee-length seems fine to me. I don’t know about the slit, only that I’ve seen some rather skimpier outfits in temples for bar/bat mitzvahs myself, so anecdotally it doesn’t seem that bad. I guess in a pinch you could hold your purse on your lap to cover it!
Post # 6
Thanks everyone!! I think the slit isn’t too revealing so I’ll probably go with the black dress. It’s my most conservative dress! I’m pretty tall so most of my dresses are at least a couple inches above the knee. 🙁
The other option I just thought of is a bridesmaids dress I have. I’ve only worn it once. Would it be ok if I wore this and put a jacket on for the ceremony (to cover up the bare sholders)? It’s a little more “dressed up” than the black dress since this dress is a shiny bright blue satin.
Post # 7
The outfit you described sounds great and appropriate, and the bridesmaid dress plus jacket also would work well.