(Closed) What to Wear to a Black Tie Mandatory

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@dragonlover:

Actually black is acceptable to wear and many do nowadays, so that’s not an issue. 🙂 My only thing is if it is a summer wedding even black tie required I dont do black bc its too hot for me and I like color. To dress appropriate for black tie, women need to be in cocktail dresses or long dresses and guys in suits or tuxes. I went to The Limited for my cocktail dresses for a couple of black tie events; they have beautiful dresses that are appropriate for this.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yes I think that dress is definitely appropriate for Black Tie required events.  I also think black is fine to wear to a wedding and notice that a lot of ladies wear black these days. 

For black tie REQUIRED events men should be in tuxes and ladies in full length gowns.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I dont think its too formal but it does look kind of hot. For an August wedding i would do a cocktail dress, or a long dress in a lighter fabric. Its acceptable to wear black to a wedding. A cute black cocktail dress will be formal enough and you will be able to wear it to many other events. Plus you can dress it up or down with accessories.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

In my circle – black tie means tuxes for guys and long, floor-length gowns for women. Black is definitely fine though.

I disagree with the PP that said cocktail dresses and suits are fine. That is what I’ve seen worn to every semi-formal wedding I’ve ever attended and black tie is definitely fancier than semi-formal.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

In my circle, for black tie mandatory a tux is usually called for but a dressy coctail dress can be appropriate. There is a difference between a cocktail dress you would wear to a semi formal event and a black tie event. I have been to many black tie charity events, balls and weddings and at each of them there have been women wearing cocktail dresses. Only the white tie events that i have been to required only floor length gowns.

A floor length gown would be the safest bet, but i wouldnt exclude a shorter dress. If you only own that long gown and your FH and Future Mother-In-Law think its acceptable then it should not be a problem.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Since its black tie, a floor length gown is appropiate.  Since the dress you have is dressy, I suggest that you keep that as your backup.  I would look for a dress made out of chiffon.  And if possible a summery color.  Check out local dept stores and consignment stores.  There are a ton of options on the internet as well. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Yeah, I agree with squeak35 that you should maybe keep that dress as a backup… to me, it looks like a bridesmaid’s dress. With so many gorgeous formal gowns out there, I’d maybe just look at it as an opportunity to have some fun and get a pretty new gown!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

In my circle, a cocktail dress would be appropriate for a black tie optional wedding, but black tie required means long dresses. I don’t think you’ll be overdressed in that dress at all 🙂

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Miss Scarlet: I agree with this. Black tie Mandatory = Gown and Tux.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Strictly black tie means formal (not semi) so you would look out of place if you didn’t dress up. I’m guessing most women will be wearing floor length gowns, so you should probably find one too. I think the black is totally acceptable, but you could also opt for something with a pop of color. I would definitely wear a gown though.  

Post # 13
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Helper bee

These dresses are on sale! First two are from macys and the bottom two are from david’s bridal. All under $100.

I think the dress you have is fine, just giving you ideas 🙂

 

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m having a black tie wedding (the day after the one you’re going to, haha) so I’ve been getting a lot of questions from guests about it. I would have your Fiance check with his cousin to see if they are ok with guests wearing black. People tend to wear black to weddings that I’ve been to, but it’s an old school fashion don’t, so you should just make sure it will be ok for this particular wedding.

Generally, black tie for women can be a floor length gown or it can be a cocktail length dress. The key with a cocktail length dress is to either wear a really dressy one (beading, very fancy fabric, etc) and/or to really dress it up with fancy jewelry, shoes, and bag.

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