Post # 1
I am hoping the local ladies can help me out. I am coming from out of town for a wedding at a nice looking country club in East Memphis TN. I have never been to TN before so I have no idea what to expect. The ceremony begins at 7pm and is in a church followed by the reception at a country club. The invites were very nice and I assume it will be a pretty formal event but I have no idea of how formal! Coming from the NYC area we tend to dress up so I just want to make sure I am not over dressed or under dressed. Are short cocktail dresses and heels right or should I be a little more formal?
Post # 3
Hmm. It can really vary from wedding to wedding around here. Do you know any of the bridesmaids or any women in the family who you could email and ask?
Post # 4
i was surprised to see what people wore to the first wedding I attended after moving to Nashville from Connecticut. It screamed "formal", but not black tie so I wore what I thought was socially acceptable: a dressy cocktail length satin dress and the fiance wore a suit and tie. Man was I wrong! I was the most dressed up one there besides the bridal party and family. People came in gauchos for god sake! And most men didn’t even have ties or jackets. I learned and wore a nice semi-casual dress (like Macy’s quality) for the next few, and I was still on the more dressed up side. I just don’t feel right going to a formal event any more dressed down. However, you never know and I would give the bride a call or email to double check.
I also went to a "formal" wedding here at a church and nice country club where they served instant mashed potatoes and frozen egg rolls…and that’s it. Nothing like having to stop for fast food after a wedding reception! But that’s another post, hehe.
Post # 5
Don’t assume we all eat possum stew around here.
My sis used to live in E. TN when my bil was in med school. They had a very elegant post wedding reception for their friends in Johnson City w hen they returned…and I’m originally from Memphis *used to live in Germantown/Cordova* and had a flat out gorgeous wedding when I married my x and my bff had a SIX FIGURED wedding when she married her H too. Her reception was at the Peabody.
Btw, the country clubs in East Memphis are very nice. I’d dress appropriately. Cocktail attire is preferred usually. A very dressy cute, short cocktail dress or the LBD with pearls would work well.
Post # 6
I think that southern weddings can be very formal. The difference may be that — excuse my broad generalization — southerners wear less black. It’s taken to be drab and dreary.
I grew up in East Memphis. The venue is probably very nice. But I agree — if the invitations are vague, ask around!
Post # 7
What IS the venue?
I can tell you what to wear..I lived there from age 2 until 32.
Post # 8
Thanks for the feedback. No I don’t know anyone going to this! It’s my fiance’ friend. I have been trying to get an idea from him but he is no use! I can’t remember the name of the country club off the top of my head… I know it’s long and it begins with the letter C. The bride and groom both in the North East so I assume it will be a mixed group between southerns and us New Yorkers wearing black! Just kidding I have a very bright color dress that I plan to wear. I was trying to decide between long and short, but I think I will stick with short just to be on the safe side. I agree every wedding varries but with the later start and the country club, I am guessing it will be a little more dressy.