(Closed) What to wear to an all white wedding??

posted 6 years ago in Dress
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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jnm_sha:  Well, I would assume that *most* people will be uncomfortable in all white, especially at at wedding, so I’d go for a light pink/peach or pastel color in a muted or soft tone personally. That way, if everyone does wear white/white shades, you’ll still fit in, and if everyone doesn’t, you won’t look like you made a massive fashion faux pas. 

 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

Unless you know the bride has very modern/minimal tastes, I would go with something more structured–not flowy or poofy at all. 

These are all from Rent the Runway but you could definitely find similar things if you don’t want to rent (though, RTR is like, my favorite thing ever and I highly recommend it!)

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Ugh, I hate when peopel think it is okay to dictate attire to their guests.  And doesn’t she realize that white is not always the easiest color to pull off and definitely something that people don’t just have sitting in their closet, espeically in formal attire.

When is her wedding?  You may have to break down and buy a simple wedding gown.  Maybe look at J.Crew, Ann Taylor, White House Black Market, Nordstrom (or other department store).

I think the best way to not look bridal is to find a white dress that may have a pattern or a little bit of color in it, maybe like a floral embroidery or something like that.  Also, if you find a dress you like and it has a train, get the train cut off.

And you say her wedding is formal, but that doesn’t mean that you have to wear a long dress.  A nice white cocktail dress would be just fine.  And it will also help to cut down on the bridal feel.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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jnm_sha:  I would go for a blush pink or a champagne color

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Buzzing bee

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jnm_sha:  “How do I avoid looking bridal?” – Don’t wear a full length dress, or anything overly fancy. There are PLENTY of white dresses out there that don’t look at all bridal. 

I would NOT wear a wedding dress, under any circumstances. I would also NOT wear peach or pastels, if it’s an all-white wedding. Celebrities have “all white” parties all the time; if sounds like this is what your friend is trying to pull off.

Wear a white cocktail dress. 

From google image search:

http://machopicture.com/images/casual-dresses/9988-cocktail-dress-023.jpg 

http://machopicture.com/images/spring-dresses/4420-sexy_v_neck_beaded_white_cocktail_dress_2013__1__8076856398642892_690x500.jpg 

http://aerlf.org/wp-content/uploads/parser/White-cocktail-dresses-for-women-4.jpg 

 I haven’t watched this because I’m at work, but there’s a youtube video that came up when I googled called “What Would I Wear to an All White Party”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r10gU9cQJMw 

ETA: About the idea of wearing pastels, blush, champagne, etc. – when the bride gathers everyone together for a group shot of all her guests in white, do you want to be the one guest that wore a color? What if the bride has asked everyone to wear white, and she’ll be in black or red or something? She may be planning on something like this. Do you, and the bride, want to be the only ones not wearing white? Eek. If she’s specified white, I would stay safe and wear white. 

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Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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jnm_sha:  My mom and I found a white “thick” lace long cocktail dress with a darker nude underneath from J Crew and she wore that on my and hubs wedding day.  It looked really nice in pictures. 

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would just try to find a white dress that isn’t floor-length so that you don’t feel so “bridal”.  If she’s requesting all white…I wouldn’t go with a pastel or a anything with a colored-embroidered pattern because if everyone else does stick to the all-white theme, you will stick out like a sore thumb. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t own any white dresses and I don’t see any need to go buy one. Sorry. Wear whatever you want. It’s a major dick move to try to put the guests in uniforms.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

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jnm_sha:  Ugh. I’d find an excuse not to go. The only white I own is a button-up oxford and some gym socks. I hate white and look terrible in it. I’m not spending money to buy an outfit guaranteed to make me look dead, just so she can feel like some ice queen puppet master when she looks at her pictures on Pinterest. Nope, not gonna happen.

“If you were a good friend you would.” No, if SHE were a good friend, she wouldn’t be so ridiculous. I probably wouldn’t even “find” an excuse, I’d probably just decline and if she asked me about it I’d tell her: I don’t own anything white. If we all get bolder about letting people know when they’re being absurd, maybe they’ll start being less absurd.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Also, I don’t recommend wearing blush/champagne etc if she specified white. If you’re willing to go and willing to buy something new, it may as well conform to her request. Her dress may be some colors besides white–which may be why she asked you all to wear it. 

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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jnm_sha:  If you  have decided to cooperate with this inappropriate request, then I would choose a formal white dress without regard to whether or not it looks bridal. Obviously the bride doesn’t care if any of her guests are mistaken for the bride.

There are some good buys on Nordstrom Rack.

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