Post # 16
Nope. I wouldn’t buy a white dress for the occassion, because I’d never wear it again. I’m very pale and other than a couple of tops, nothing is white except my undies. I do have a few light colored dresses I could wear. Or maybe I just wouldn’t go?
Post # 17
David’s bridal is having a $99 sale. Maybe find a really simple wedding dress to wear? Or a white bridesmaid dress? And you could wear it to your rehearsal dinner and bridal shower too.
Post # 18
Definitely go with RTR but make sure you have a few backups in mind as well. A gf of mine recently has her dress replaced at the last minute cos the one she had originally chosen was sudden unavailable two days before the wedding!
Post # 19
The only white dress I own is my wedding dress so I’d ask her if she’d prefer for me to wear it (woohoo, it was expensive and I only wore it once after all!) or a different color. I definitely wouldn’t be going out and purchasing a white dress when I have plenty of wedding appropriate dresses in my closet already.
Post # 20
Is there a chance the bride ISN’T wearing white and this is her way of setting herself apart?
Post # 21
- Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel
Nope, I’ve seen her dress is white, and her husband to be will be wearing white too. I don’t mind wearing the color white itself, I guess I’m just old fashioned and white is only for the bride to wear. I was very happy no one wore white to my wedding lol. Also, I feel that because she is a having a formal event all the white dresses seem a bit bridal. It would make more sense if she wanted everyone to wear black. If maybe the wedding was a little more casual it would be easier to find a cute white sundress or something.
Post # 22
My view is that if she asked you to wear white, wear white.
Is it that hard to comply with her wishes on her special day. Of all the bride-zilla things i’ve heard, this seems tame. Ok it may suck if you have to purchase a new gown, but at the end of the day, just do it to make her happy – get something on sale if you are convinced you will never re-wear it.
People who suggest a pale pastel – i’m not sure why – she asked for white – its hard to screw that up for pastel. Don’t try to be *that person*
I think people try to look into things too deeply and look for ways to make problems. Life is too short – embrace her request as a ‘fun’ ‘different’ idea and celebrate their nuptuals – or don’t go – seems pretty simple.
Post # 23
I understand the old fashioned rule – ‘don’t wear white to a wedding’. And as a normal wedding guest, I would totally adhere to this rule.
If the bride has a vision of everyone in white, wear white! She is expressly changing this tradition. Have fun with it.
Post # 24
yeah, no. At best a bride can request that her guests conform to a certain level of formality. She can’t insist everyone go out and wear a specific color unless she wants them all in the bridal party. If the OP wants to go along with it, more power to her – I’m sure any white dress will be just fine – but personally I wouldn’t run out and buy a dress just for the occasion. Especially not if it’s just to make her pictures look a certain way (though there’s no proof of that in this scenario).
My closet has two choices: my wedding dress and a red/white striped sundress that I wore to another wedding. They’re both about the same style. If I’m not in the bridal party, I’m not shelling out the cash for something else when I own perfectly good dresses already. It’s a waste of good money.
Post # 25
IMO anything you want. It’s incredibly rude and inappropriate for her to obligate what I’m guessing are most of the women on her guest list to buy not only a white dress, but one that is suitable for a formal occasion.
If I were you, either I would send regrets or tell the bride that buying a new white gown that I’ll only wear once is not in the budget right now.
Post # 26
weddingmaven: IMO anything you want. It’s incredibly rude and inappropriate for her to obligate what I’m guessing are most of the women on her guest list to buy not only a white dress, but one that is suitable for a formal occasion.
This. Plus, does that mean all of the male guests have to purchase a white tux for this formal all-white event?
Post # 27
While I agree with PP’s that the request is rude and that you can wear whatever you want, if everyone else conforms you will stand out, whether or not that is right or wrong. Given your main objection seems to be against the colour, as you see it as a colour only the bride should wear, and not to buying a gown in a specific colour, I would just wear white (plus, depending on what you buy, you may be able to dye it).
As far as style goes, I would go with a cocktail dress or floor length dress. I wouldn’t buy something overtly bridal (eg ball gowb/long train), but do not see an issue with floor length per se; in the right cut and fabric it will not look bridal.
Post # 28
AstonMartin: “My view is that if she asked you to wear white, wear white.
Is it that hard to comply with her wishes on her special day. Of all the bride-zilla things i’ve heard, this seems tame. Ok it may suck if you have to purchase a new gown, but at the end of the day, just do it to make her happy – get something on sale if you are convinced you will never re-wear it.”
Yeah, nope. Nope. Nope. People aren’t required to do whatever some idiot bride asks them to. I’m not going to reward such rude behavior by meekly going along with it. This nonsense of “the bride gets whatever she wants because it’s her speshul day” needs to stop. The fact that it is your wedding day does not mean you get to toss your good manners out the window– nor does it mean that your guests need to let you!
Post # 29
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
Check ModCloth – they have some gorgeous white dresses which aren’t too bridal.
Post # 30
I wouldn’t wear blush/champagne or pastel as i’d say the chances why she’s said all white is because she isn’t wearing white! And the most common non white wedding dresses are in those shades. So i’d honestly just find a white dress or white skirt with a pale coloured top.