Post # 31

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Buzzing bee
For the life of me I don’t know why people are so antsy about this. I’ve heard of it being done before, and guests had a blast. Also black and white attire. I wouldn’t stress, OP. Just grab something simple – if she’s requesting white she doesn’t care whether you blend in with her. Heck, she might not feel comfortable being the only one in a white gown!
Post # 32

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Helper bee
If you don’t want to buy or wear a white dress, then don’t go… I know someone who had a white wedding, and the pictures looked pretty cool. As far as not looking bridal, just get something that’s midi length.
None of you guys heard about the white wedding trend??? I mean it’s not something I ever wanted to do, but it’s not unheard of, really. Kinda surprised that everyone is all up-in-arms about it.
Post # 34

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Busy bee
AstonMartin: Honestly, yeah, this is a request that is a huge pain in the ass to comply with when you are just a wedding guest. I had a hell of a time finding white dresses to wear to my bridal shower and rehearsal dinner – so much so that I actually ended up just wearing the one dress I managed to find that worked to both. And that was me wanting to find one, not doing it just to comply with someone else’s wishes.
White can be a really tough color to pull off, both because some people don’t have the coloring for it and if you’re not a skinny mini most white dresses that are not bridal don’t have a lot of weight and structure to them so they’re not that flattering. I’d be pretty pissed about it and unless I found something to wear easily might consider not going if it weren’t a close friend or family.
Post # 35

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Buzzing Beekeeper
epon10642: “None of you guys heard about the white wedding trend???” — Sure but that doesn’t make it any less rude or ridiculous. If more people would say “the cost to me far outweighs the benefit to you so I’m not doing it” brides would stop pullling self-indulgent BS like this.
Post # 36

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Sugar Beekeeper
The expression “if someone has the nerve to ask, then you can have the nerve to say “no” comes to mind.
Post # 37

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Bumble bee
Idk if I’d get anything new just for this because I’m kind of a jerk, but if you are looking for opinions on white-ish non-bridal formal dresses, I think this Chi Chi london one is super cute
http://www.asos.com/Chi-Chi-London/Chi-Chi-London-Premium-Lace-Midi-Prom-Dress-With-Bardot-Neck/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=5417004

ETA: also this one, I think the shoulders make it look pretty formal idk
http://www.asos.com/ASOS/ASOS-WEDDING-Drape-Cold-Shoulder-Midi-Dress/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=5454966

Post # 38

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Bumble bee
jnm_sha:
You know, the tradition was once for all of the bridesmaids to wear the same as the bride to confuse evil spirits as to which one was the real bride… so if you’re really being “old-fashioned” you should wear the same dress as her. Just saying. XD
Can you accessorise with another color? It depends how strict she is…
Post # 39

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Helper bee
I went shopping for white dresses for the bridal shower, reception, etc and I had no trouble finding white dresses between Macys and JCP
Post # 40

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Bumble bee
I’ve been to an all- white wedding Destination wedding in Jamaica. The bride thought the pictures would be cool and they were.
Post # 41

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Busy bee
RTR has lots of good options for shades of white, ivory short dresses that you could get.
🙂
Post # 42

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Busy bee
- Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel
I never said I was opposed to wearing a white dress. I just think is ridiculous to expect all your guests to wear the same color, I mean she wants everyone to wear all white head to toes, that includes men as well. With that being said that is just my personal opinion, and to each its own, which is why I didnt say anything to her. Im just having a hard time picking a dress because I guess I feel too bridally in the dresses I like, and just wanted some ideas as to what others would wear in my place. Ive seen pretty good ideas thank you bees.
Post # 43

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Helper bee
What about an awesome pant suit like this one on Ms. Swift?

Post # 44

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Sugar bee
My first thought was something like this dress from How I Met Your Mother.

Post # 45

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Worker bee
I had a friend who wanted a “black and white wedding” where all the guests would wear black and white and she would surprise everyone in a bright red dressing when she walked down the aisle. That relationship didn’t last so it never happened, but eh whatever its a theme. I saw a couple cute white dresses at Dillards today. Pretty inexpensive too.