(Closed) what to wear to BLACK TIE wedding!!!

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

3 words: LITTLE BLACK DRESS 🙂 Jazz it up with bold jewelery (big necklace?) & sexy heels. Check out Black House White Market

Post # 4
2006 posts
Buzzing bee

Black tie usually means a long, formal gown. You could maybe get away with a really nice cocktail dress, but you would probably be underdressed. Since it is in january I would add a nice wrap or bolero to keep you warm.

Windsor has some fairly nice dresses at decent prices. You have to use good judgement though because quite a few of their piece are poorly made and overpriced.

Nordstroms can have gorgeous dresses at really reasonable prices if you catch a good sale or clearance!




Post # 5
5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

Usually for black tie weddings women wear floor length gowns.  depending on the location and time of day you may be able to get away with fancy cocktail length dress.

 I would try the usual department stores first.  Bloomingdales and Macys always have great selections and sales.  Then I’d look into local boutiques and smaller chain stores like Cache, BCBG, etc.

Post # 6
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

although typically black tie has meant floor length gowns for women, it seems more and more that cocktail dresses are acceptable for black tie weddings. also, is it black tie, or black tie optional? will your bf/FI/husband be wearing a tux? i think you can never go wrong with a great black dress, long or knee-length. i actually got a great knee-length black silk dress on sale at macy’s a year or two back, i ended up wearing it to a black tie optional wedding and i was perfectl dressed.

Post # 7
5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would check out Ross or Marshalls. I found some really great dresses for dances there.

Post # 8
1482 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Check with the bride about whether or not she minds you wearing a short dress. I’ve been to two “black tie required” weddings this year; at both there were plenty of women wearing very understated, simple short cocktail dresses. However, at one, the bride had insisted on long dresses and the other, even the bridesmaids dresses were short so she didn’t care about short dresses.

Post # 9
46415 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Locally black tie means a formal gown for women. I don’t know where you live, but check to see if you have a formal dress rental store in your area.

In Vancouver we have Dujour


If you have to buy a dress, look in the sale section of the website.

This dress is only $138 from Nordstrom’s

JS Boutique Draped Jersey Gown

this is $225 from Macy’s

BCBGMAXAZRIA Dress, Strapless Gown


Post # 10
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I went to a black tie wedding in June and was like one of three girls my age in a floor length gown. EVERYONE else was in a dressy cocktail dress. I would say if you find a floor length gown that you love and would love to get, then get it. But if it’s a struggle for you (which it was for me!), then go with a dressy black dress and go with elegant accessories (nothing too funky or trendy). You can also wear it with pantyhose to dress it up a little (and since it’ll be cold). 

Post # 12
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I think it depends where you’re from. Around here (FL) when I go to black tie weddings people aren’t really that fancy. Short dresses are fine. But I went to a black tie wedding in NJ, and of course I was the only one in a short dress.

Post # 13
7152 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

MOst of the time it calls for a long formal dress, but depending on the time of day a cocktail dress could be fine. Most definitely try Ross, Sears, and JCPenney. Ross is inexpensive anyway and my go to for cute dresses. I have found some deeply discounted formal dresses from Sears and JCPenney plenty of times.

Edit: Sorry, I just saw that you commented again. Well, it doesn’t really sound like a black tie wedding anymore. It sounds like a typical wedding, so tights would be fine.

Post # 15
1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think tights are fine!  There are some really cute patterny ones now that would be fancy.  That would atleast keep you somewhat warm when walking to the car!

Post # 16
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I thought black tie meant that guys had to rent tuxes. Her requirements for black tie suit and cocktail dresses sound exactly like what my guests wore and it certainly wasn’t a black tie recommended or required wedding.

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