(Closed) What to Wear When You're a Bridesmaid's Date

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3574 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My DH never matches me when I am a BM.  He just wears what he would normally wear to a wedding – a suit.  I don’t like when people try to match the bridal party, and my DH and I have never tried to coordinate our outfits.  

Post # 4
840 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Apple_Blossom:  I’m not a huge fan of the matchy thing in any context, so I just say wear whatever nice suit and shirt and tie you have. You don’t want to clash, but I think it’s ok to wear whatever you want. I think the last wedding my FI and I went to I was a bridesmaid in a red/navy blue dress, and he wore a light blue shirt and blue striped tie. He looks nice in blue because his eyes are blue. 🙂

Post # 5
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

A non-wedding party date should just wear a normal outfit…no offense but even if you weren’t in the wedding party I would find it kind of dorky that you matched your FI’s tie to your dress 😛  but since you are in the wedding party, I think you especially shouldn’t match, it seems awkward for your date to be mistaken for a groomsman all night.

Post # 6
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Apple_Blossom:  I think matching is cute, but I would agree with PPs that maybe you should skip matching it to the BM dress. Or, if you really want to coordinate, get him a tie that is a different color but has purple in it but isn’t entirely purple.

Post # 7
8151 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Apple_Blossom:  i once went to a wedding where my bf of the time was in the wedding party. i just wore a dress like i was a regular invited guest and dressed appropriately for the style of wedding that it was.


Post # 10
906 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

FI doesn’t dress to match me when I’m a bridesmaid. He just wears whatever suit/tie combo he feels for that day. At one wedding he not only had the same color tie as the groomsmen (total accident) but he also LOOKED just like on the groomsmen. That guy’s toddler was so confused… 

But, in all, I don’t decide what FI wears to events. Frankly, he’s more fashion forward than I am. Sometimes I wish he’d tell ME what to wear. Sigh.

Post # 11
3260 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I never match my fiancée, generally.  I’m a man, not an accessory.  I’m 31 so I’m much too old for it to be cute.

Post # 12
2029 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would want him to wear whatever the occasion calls for. 

Post # 13
723 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I definitely think he shouldn’t wear anything similar to the groomsmen. It’s one thing to semi coordinate with the BM/his date but no to the point where he looks like he’s part of the bridal party….that might be quite awkward!

Post # 14
4416 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Apple_Blossom:  FWIW, DH and I totally like to match our accessories. He’s a total dandy when it comes time to wear a suit (which is so totally unlike him ANY OTHER TIME that I completely encourage it) so he loves getting a tie and pocket square that matches my shawl or necklace or dress 🙂  You’re not the only dork! I love the idea of getting a tie with purple in it but not solid color — that way, you both look fantastic together, but he’s safe from being mistaken for a groomsman!

Post # 15
3729 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Apple_Blossom:  Don’t have him match! Think about it in reverse– would you want your groomsman’s girlfriend to be wearing a dress the same color as your bridesmaids? I wouldn’t be happy– the focus should be on the couple, not you as a couple. While I totally get that it could look cute, the best SO of a bridal party is one who sits back and stays out of the spotlight. FWIW, I do my best not to coordinate. If their colors are black and purple, I wear brown and pink.

Post # 16
3736 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Just wear what is appropriate and don’t try to match anything or exert too much thought.

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