(Closed) What to write in a thank you note to someone who wasn’t invited to wedding?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
13094 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I had one like this too!  My parent’s next door neighbors (whose kids I used to sit for) got us a gift even though they were not invited.  I said something to the effect of:

“Thank you so much for the very generous gift!  It is so nice to have some extra money to use to complete our registry and continue to make our apartment our own.  We really appreciate you thinking of us!

We hope all is well with you and the family and hopefully we’ll see you next time we’re back in Indiana!

Thanks again!”

Hopefully you could tweak this a little bit to fit your exact situation!

Post # 4
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

When you say not invited do you mean not invited and still came or sent a card and all even though they weren’t invited?

Post # 6
1870 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I wouldn’t mention the wedding.

Perhaps a better way to think of it is they gave you those gifts to celebrate your MARRIAGE, not the wedding. So pen your response in kind: thank them for their generosity, and tell them what a wonderful gift it is to both of you for starting your lives together.

Post # 7
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Hi — this is what I wrote to people who weren’t invited but sent a gift, like neighbors, etc.

Thank you so much for your beautiful wedding card and generous gift. Your thoughtfulness and well wishes for our marriage are appreciated. August 21st was a wonderful day for us, filled with many happy memories. Thank you for recognizing how special this time in our life is and for being so sweet.   Love,

What do you think?

Post # 8
3315 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think you could write it like you’d write a thank-you note for a Christmas or birthday present.  Thank them for their “generous gift” (not mentioning the amount), and say something about what you intend to do with the money.

Post # 9
2777 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We had a family friend give us a wedding gift (cash for our honeyfund) too – and they weren’t invited. I think I wrote;

“Thank you so much for your generous gift and well-wishes. We went to Australia for our honeymoon and thanks to you we were able to do XYZ which was wonderful – definitely something to remember! We’re so thankful for your love, support and kindness.

We hope to see you when we’re next in X.


Mr and Mrs”

The topic ‘What to write in a thank you note to someone who wasn’t invited to wedding?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors