Post # 1
Okay, so it’s been almost a year since my friend got married. At the time, I was BROKE, and I could only afford to travel to the wedding, not a present. (Before her wedding, I did mention to her that I was having money issues but would get her a gift later.) This girl is one of my best friends from elementary/middle/high school, but now I only see her 1-2 times a year because we live far apart. I wanted to give her a cash gift in person, but unfortunately I haven’t seen her at all since the wedding, so I’m just going to mail her a check before her 1-year anniversary rolls around.
Anyway, what should I write on the card? I am SO embarassed it’s been this long. :/
Post # 3
If I remember right, it’s usually acceptable to send a gift up until a year after the wedding. If you feel like you need to explain, I’d just be honest and say that you were strapped for cash at the time of her wedding, but you still wanted to send her a gift for the wedding as congratulations and you apologize for the delay.
Honestly, you’re nicer than most. I’m sure a lot of people who were broke at the time wouldn’t even send a gift, so don’t feel embarrassed. You are a good friend 🙂
Post # 4
Do NOT be embarrassed..she will be extatic!! I can’t tell you how many people said they were gong to send one and sorry, I can’t help bu tnotice they didn’t!! I totally understand money problems, but I also understand sometimes so much time passes that it gets forgotten…you will be seen as very thoughtful! Just write that you are sorry it’s so late but you wanted them to having something and hope their first year of marriage was wonderful and wish them many more happy years.
Post # 5
I think it will be great because it is unexpected! I bet she will be thrilled!!! I am sure she will appreciate it no matter what.
Post # 7
I might say something to the effect of “I was so honored to share your beautiful wedding day with you; here is a little something for you and hubby to use in celebrating your first year of marriage together, and I continue to wish you both many years of happiness.”
Post # 8
@carrotstick: Well you DID mention that you had money issues. Just say something like, “I know I was struggling financially during your wedding and I couldn’t afford a gift. Instead, how about a one year anniversary gift? Happy Anniversary :)”
Post # 9
You could say something about how much you enjoyed their special day, and that you hope this belated gift brings back sweet memories for them.
Post # 10
Etiquette Snob here… lol
I agree with the posts by @JoCoJenn:
(Reply # 6) and @village_skeptic:
(Reply # 8)
This is an occasion when “honesty isn’t necessarily the best policy”
In polite society it is inappropriate to call attention to money issues… so no need to explain yours (anyhow, she probably knew from before right ?)
Just be JOYOUS for them… and send positive uplifting words.
It’ll be fine… no reason to be embarrassed… the fact that you thought of them in such a GENEROUS way is all that matters.
Hope this helps,