Post # 1
It’s modern times, and I think lots of brides are comfy nowadays leaving out some traditional elements. Things like, garter or bouquet toss, feeding each other cake, dad walking you down the aisle. Trendy/cool shoes are popular now in lieu of dress shoes. So my question is:
Are you leaving anything out? Which parts?
– the garter/bouquet toss
– a cake (the venue serves dessert)
– throwing stuff at the bride/groom
How about you?
Post # 3
The receiving line! I dunno, I just hate it. I was so glad we got to leave it out:)
Post # 5
We’re ultra traditional so we are keeping everything but the receiving line.
Post # 6
We are not doing the garter/bouquet toss nor the throwing stuff (never got that one). I am sure there will be more things we ax as we get more threw the process.
Post # 7
We’re having a receiving line, but I’ve actually never been to a wedding with one before! J thinks it’s simpler, so … that’ll be okay. 🙂 We’ll be greeting a lot of our guests before the wedding too though, so I expect it to go quickly enough.
So obviously the whole hiding the bride ordeal is one tradition we’re skipping. We’re also cutting tosses and still on the fence about whether my dad or J will walk me down the aisle. Either way our parents (all of them) will offer their blessing on our marriage, but there will be no giving away or exchange of property. 🙂
Alcohol free venue means no champagne toasts, and we’re not bothering with sparkling cider.
Post # 8
We’re saying thanks, but no thanks to
-a church wedding or ceremony with any religion
-the garter toss and (probably) the bouquet toss
-a veil or white shoes for me
-a very traditional wedding cake (I’m making one moderate sized tiered cake and then a cake buffet)
-matching bridesmaid’s dresses
-traditional vows (we’re writing our own)
So kind of a lot, I guess! It didn’t seem like much since most people leave a few of these out, but I guess written down it seems like we’re not that traditional after all.
Post # 9
We aren’t having:
– Confetti / throwing stuff at us
– A traditional cake.. we’re having one small tier for us to cut, and then cupcakes!
– Church / Religious ceremony
– Guestbook (hoping to have an instant-camera-kind-of setup)
There are probably more, but I can’t think, lol.
Post # 10
– The garter/bouquet toss. With our small guest list, my Maid/Matron of Honor & one of my fiance’s friends are the only single girls we have, and we have no single dudes. We’re doing an anniversary dance instead.
– A cake. My fiance has wanted cupckaes with a small cake for us to cut from the get-go, and I’m totally fine with that.
– My dad walking me down the aisle (totally my choice…long story). We will still be doing a father/daughter dance though, because I didn’t want to exclude him completely. My Mom will be walking me down the aisle & she couldn’t be happier about it.
– The receiving line. With our small guest list it’s really unnecessary. We’ll just visit everyone at the reception.
Post # 12
-the garter/bouquet toss
-throwing studd at the bride&groom
-a religious ceremony
-we’re first looking, so the aisle won’t be the first time he sees me in a white dress
-traditional wedding cake
Post # 13
not getting married in a church.
Evening wedding (starting about 8pm)
Not typical evening meal…almost midnight brunch instead
no something old, new, etc…
No fg/rb. All the children who are at the ceremony (sitter doesn’t start until cocktail hour) will parade down the aisle
Sitting in a square arrangmenet instead of typical aisle
Doing a candle lighting ceremony instead of the typical unity candle.
Post # 14
Bm are not carrying bouquets. They are adults they know what to do with their hands.
Bridal Party is not standing for ceremony, they will walk down the aisle and then be seated.
I’m wearing gold studded Loubs, that’s gotta be non-traditional
Post # 16
Oh man, you guys brought up a bunch of things I forgot I was ditching, like:
– guest book
– father/daughter dance
– church wedding (we’re a secular couple)
– receiving line