Post # 1
I thought it might be fun to hear what traditions people aren’t following, and what reactions you are getting.
– having a cake or cutting
– having a sit-down dinner (tapas and lounge seating instead)
– garter or bouquet toss
I’m worried that people won’t eat enough, but I’m hoping that enough word of mouth will fix that.
Post # 4
no garter toss, i will probaby do a bouquet toss (i always wanted to, but i’m not too sure)..
Post # 5
I’m not doing a veil which has my mom disappointed but oh well. We are also not doing a garter toss. I haven’t decided on a bouquet toss yet.
Post # 6
no garter, no sit-down meal… I think we’re staying fairly traditional other than that!
Post # 7
I am skipping the money dance which seems to be a tradition in my Fiance family, we may be passing on the cake cutting and I am trying to ditch candle ceremony.
Post # 8
I’m having both my father AND mother walk me down the aisle.
They divorced when I was 2 and Dad was out of the picture until I was a little older, but we have had a great relationship for the last 10 years. Of course, my Mom has been there since day 1. So I want them both to do it 🙂
Now… if they’ll cooperate! 🙂
Post # 9
-We are seeing eachother before the wedding
-I am not wearing a veil
-We are not doing a bouquet or garter toss
-We are not doing a cake
-We are not having a unity candle or any other ceremony like that
-No Father/Daugter or Mother/Daughter Dance
– I am wearing a short wedding dress
-No Head table
-Not getting married in a church
Post # 10
– A head table
– A father/daughter dance (My dad is your typical Asian dad who has never been huggy huggy. As long as I had good grades, my parents were fine with me. It’s just too awkward for me to be all “emotional” w/ dad when I was never that open with him.)
– A wedding shower (I feel weird inviting people to a party to give us gifts. I already have my own place that my fiancé will move into. I don’t need to ooh and ahhh over pots & pans for 2 hours. I already have ‘em.)
– A picture taking session of me getting ready (I feel weird having a photographer there when I’m getting dressed. I like my calm & silence before I start my big day.)
– Flower girls. I’ll only have my nephew as ring bearer. He’s the only “blood relative” I have for the kids. The rest are family friends’ kids.
Post # 11
It is funny because out of my whole family (I have two sisters), I think I am the most traditional, but my wedding was the least traditional of the three! Who knew?
-No bouquet or garter toss
-No sitdown meal (heavy hors d’ouevres for our cocktail reception)
-No dancing (My hubby and I wanted everyone to just have a fun time talking and catching up with each other)
-Didn’t think twice about seeing each other before the ceremony. We didn’t even do a first look, but that had more to do with the weather than anything else.
We kept the traditions that had meaning for us!
Post # 12
-No bouquet or garter
-We’ll be seeing each other beforehand.
-No dollar dance (it’s tradition in my family)
-No unity candle/sand/etc
-No father/daughter, mother/son etc dances
Post # 13
– I don’t think we’re doing a receiving line at the church, since we’ll be visiting all the tables to say hello.
– We’re not doing a bridal party dance.
– No money dance.
– Two maids of honor/two best men
Post # 14
Let’s see, our are:
– No veil
– No bouquet/garter toss
– Not getting married in a church
– Only have one on each side (i.e., just Maid/Matron of Honor, no BM)
– No cake (cupcakes instead!!)
So far the only thing that has fazed my mom is the no cake situation – she’s so untraditional, but is clinging onto that traditional fondant style wedding cake and traditional cake cutting! LOL
Post # 15
@gabriell, My mom had a hard time with the cake thing too. We are having cupcakes and she begged me to let her buy a small wedding cake so we could cut it and feed eachother cake…that is just not me! LOL!! =) She is so sweet! I love my mom!!
Post # 16
-garter or bouquet toss
-my sister, not my Maid/Matron of Honor, will give my toast (and Bridesmaid or Best Man isn’t giving his toast)