(Closed) What tradition are you not following?

posted 12 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
783 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m not having:

A head table

A wedding party dance

Post # 4
5280 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

no garter toss, i will probaby do a bouquet toss (i always wanted to, but i’m not too sure)..

Post # 5
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m not doing a veil which has my mom disappointed but oh well.  We are also not doing a garter toss.  I haven’t decided on a bouquet toss yet. 

Post # 6
821 posts
Busy bee

no garter,  no sit-down meal… I think we’re staying fairly traditional other than that!

Post # 7
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I am skipping the money dance which seems to be a tradition in my Fiance family, we may be passing on the cake cutting and I am trying to ditch candle ceremony.

Post # 8
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m having both my father AND mother walk me down the aisle.

They divorced when I was 2 and Dad was out of the picture until I was a little older, but we have had a great relationship for the last 10 years. Of course, my Mom has been there since day 1. So I want them both to do it 🙂

Now… if they’ll cooperate! 🙂

Post # 9
632 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

-We are seeing eachother before the wedding

-I am not wearing a veil

-We are not doing a bouquet or garter toss

-We are not doing a cake

-We are not having a unity candle or any other ceremony like that

-No Father/Daugter or Mother/Daughter Dance

– I am wearing a short wedding dress 

-No Head table

-Not getting married in a church

Post # 10
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Not having:

–         A head table

–         A father/daughter dance (My dad is your typical Asian dad who has never been huggy huggy. As long as I had good grades, my parents were fine with me. It’s just too awkward for me to be all “emotional” w/ dad when I was never that open with him.)

–         A wedding shower (I feel weird inviting people to a party to give us gifts. I already have my own place that my fiancé will move into. I don’t need to ooh and ahhh over pots & pans for 2 hours.  I already have ‘em.)

–         A picture taking session of me getting ready (I feel weird having a photographer there when I’m getting dressed.  I like my calm & silence before I start my big day.)

–         Flower girls.  I’ll only have my nephew as ring bearer.  He’s the only “blood relative” I have for the kids.  The rest are family friends’ kids.

Post # 11
218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

It is funny because out of my whole family (I have two sisters), I think I am the most traditional, but my wedding was the least traditional of the three!  Who knew?

-No bouquet or garter toss

-No sitdown meal (heavy hors d’ouevres for our cocktail reception)

-No dancing (My hubby and I wanted everyone to just have a fun time talking and catching up with each other)

-No favors

-Didn’t think twice about seeing each other before the ceremony.  We didn’t even do a first look, but that had more to do with the weather than anything else.

We kept the traditions that had meaning for us!


Post # 12
4437 posts
Honey bee

-No bouquet or garter

-We’ll be seeing each other beforehand.

-No dollar dance (it’s tradition in my family)

-No unity candle/sand/etc

-No church

-No father/daughter, mother/son etc dances

Post # 13
1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

– I don’t think we’re doing a receiving line at the church, since we’ll be visiting all the tables to say hello.

– We’re not doing a bridal party dance.

– No money dance.

– Two maids of honor/two best men

Post # 14
1337 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Let’s see, our are:

– No veil
– No bouquet/garter toss
– Not getting married in a church
– Only have one on each side (i.e., just Maid/Matron of Honor, no BM)
– No cake (cupcakes instead!!)

So far the only thing that has fazed my mom is the no cake situation – she’s so untraditional, but is clinging onto that traditional fondant style wedding cake and traditional cake cutting! LOL

Post # 15
632 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@gabriell, My mom had a hard time with the cake thing too. We are having cupcakes and she begged me to let her buy a small wedding cake so we could cut it and feed eachother cake…that is just not me! LOL!! =) She is so sweet! I love my mom!!

Post # 16
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Not doing:

-head table

-cake cutting

-garter or bouquet toss


Doing differently:

-my sister, not my Maid/Matron of Honor, will give my toast (and Bridesmaid or Best Man isn’t giving his toast)


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