(Closed) What “traditional” wedding things are you passing on to save some monies?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1077 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011


Post # 4
4014 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Were doing a dessert buffet instead of a HUGE cake (well, SO wont budge on NO cake, so it will be a small one to cut!)

No garter or bouquet toss

Cutting back on type of booze (most likely just beer and wine with a few signature drinks)

No elaborate centerpieces

No 3/4 course meal, getting food stations and heavy hors d’oeuvres

Post # 5
32 posts

We are going with a destination package that gave us many options for food – we’re going with a mid-level buffet.  Bringing our own booze instead of getting a bartender and no limo or anything fancy like that.  But it’s also a family wedding – 30 of us.

Post # 6
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Saving money by:

– Having the ceremony and reception in one place, so no limo needed

– Very light appetizers, most of our guests wouldn’t eat the very fancy h’ordeuvres anyways. Sticking with cheese and crackers and a salad bar.

– Purchasing a sample dress. Okay, technically this wasn’t really saving money, but it stopped me from going over budget on the dress.

– Also not having a garter or throwaway bouquet, I don’t lik the tosses.

– Didn’t do an inner envelope with our invites, just specified exactly who was invited on the outer envelope.

– No videographer or photobooth. This one still breaks my heart a little bit, sigh.


Splurged on:

– A new camera for the honeymoon and a new ipod for playing the ceremony music and fill-in music when our band is taking a break. Okay, these are things I’ve been wanting anyways, but the wedding is the perfect excuse haha.

– My shoes. I ended up getting them half off but they were still $150. That’s what I get for falling in love with Vera Wang shoes without realizing they’re Vera Wang shoes, haha.

– The band. But it was the only thing Fiance asked for with the whole wedding.

– The linens. I can’t even think about it. I paid for this one because I don’t even want Fiance to know how much they cost. But for reason I freaking hate traditional chair covers, I found gorgeous ones I loved, but of course they were more money, and look best with a special sash that is also more money. And the sash looks best tied a certain way. Which is also more money! Okay, I’m going to stop thinking about it now.

Post # 8
3314 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We saved money by:

  • no DJ (we also chose not to do dancing other then 1st dance and father/daughter)
  • no toss bouquet
  • No limo
  • no menus
  • no bar
  • no chair covers

We splurged on:

  • Photography
  • videography
  • ceremony location

Post # 10
4038 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Saved on:

  • Ceremony/Reception in same place, no limo (my Maid/Matron of Honor drove me to the site)
  • DIY invitations (a graphic designer friend offered to make them for us, we printed them at Kinko’s). The invite was just the main card, with a note at the very bottom to RSVP. We were working with a small budget and even smaller timeframe.
  • No STD’s (see above).
  • We had cupcakes made by a baker friend (as a wedding gift to us) instead of a cake.
  • We got our rings (matching plain gold bands, which was exactly what we wanted) from overstock.com.
  • No DJ/Band-we hooked up an iPod with playlists Darling Husband made.
  • No chair covers (happily, though our chairs weren’t all that pretty, they were at least brown, which was one of our colors).
  • Silk flowers instead of real.
  • No alcohol except a champagne toast…I know this isn’t for everyone, and we went back and forth about it a lot, but in the end, it was the best option for us.
  • No professional photographer, but only because we have at least 3 friends who are fantastic photographers with super-fancy cameras, and we have over 2000 beautiful pictures that I didn’t have to pay for.


  • Catering. It was a splurge for our budget, but even this we got a great price on because the caterer is friends with my Mother-In-Law. We had a full-on Thanksgiving dinner. Feeding people was one of the most important priorities for us, and almost a year later I’m still getting comments about the food.
  • That was our only real splurge. We cut and scrimped and accepted help from friends and family whenever it was offered. We could have afforded a larger budget, but it would come out of our “saving for a house” fund, and we didn’t want to do that.

Post # 11
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mandypop: Well I was lining my envelopes, which it turns out I’m horrible at so I had to pay to have the invite company do it. So I saved like $20 on the envelopes, $80 on the liners and mounting, and $20 on postage. I only had like 80 invites though, so the more invites the more you’re saving. It’s funny how in wedding planning saving $120 doesn’t seem like all that much, but for some reason I cares deeply about the outer envelope, the liner, the invites, etc…but just couldn’t bring myself to care at all about having an inner envelope.

Post # 12
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We cut transportation out of the wedding first thing. No limo or bus, or anything like that. Our beat up grand am is going to be our getaway vehicle.

No alcohol. I really agonized over this, but this cut our catering budget in half, so it was worth it.We are going to have a lemonade stand instead, which fits our vintage theme perfectly. Also, no cocktail hour means no cocktail food. We are going right into the reception from the wedding.

Professional Photography. I have a good friend, whom I feel, is a wonderful amateur photographer. He is doing our pictures as his gift to us.

We opted to have our wedding at our church, and we are also using the church’s social hall for our reception. We are members of the church, so we only have to pay $250.00 for both. This is about 1/4 of what it would have been anywhere else in town. The church hall is actually really nice, better than some of the venues we were considering.

Decorations, we are DIYing everything. We are buying used, and on sale. We have most of it, already.

I made my own hairpiece/veil for under $20, which is almost identical to one I saw in a bridal shop for $200

I think, unless money falls from the sky I will do doing my own hair and make-up too. I will be practicing a lot in front of the mirror this winter,



Post # 14
36 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

To save:

-No garter/bouquet toss….we really have no single friends, lol

-DIY Photobooth

-friends are doing video and photography (non-pro)

-DIY veil, invites, Save-The-Date Cards, centerpieces/favors, guestbook, cardbox, memory books, Out of Town bags, wedding party totes….some other stuff I can’t think of right now, lol



-food and drink, plated dinner, full open bar

Post # 15
1077 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@mandypop:  No ring of any kind, engagement or wedding band.  I’m not sure exactly what diamonds cost these days, but I figured we probably saved a pretty sizable chunk of cash relative to “average”.  My wedding wasn’t very budgety, but this savings let me feel better about indulging elsewhere.  

We didn’t skip them to save money, per se, but since a. we can’t really wear them very often b/c of what we do and b. I loose everything and c. I’ve got philosophical reservations about the mining it seemed like it it would be best to not put so much $$ into this tradition if we weren’t into it ourselves.

Post # 16
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We aren’t doing favors, but the money we’re saving on that we’re putting towards more beer.  We think our circle of people will appreciate our gesture =)

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