(Closed) What traditions are you not following?

posted 8 years ago in Traditions
Post # 17
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

No church (family tradition)

No bouquet/garter toss

No unity anything

Having a first look

Post # 19
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

First time i’m hearing about a receiving line… what is that? *googling*


Post # 20
4 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014


veil, tradional wedding cake, guest book, matching maids dresses, bouquet/garter toss (we’re the last – and it’s embarassing for singles!), assigned seats, bride & groom side during ceremony, weekend wedding, no unity part


We will do photos prior to ceremony so we can celebrate with those at the reception. we are doing a BBQ buffet dinner. We are getting married on a Friday (hello  3-day weekend!). We are not immediately going on a honeymoon. We are doing various pies that we will make and hopefully a backstage “filler” cake from Wegman’s or Costco. 

Post # 21
3518 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013


No white dress, no veil, no flowers (no live flowers at all), no tosses, no father/daughter dance (almost had one but me and dad decided not to), first look shoot, pink hair, ink on display, no receiving line, walked in alone, mismatched bridesmaids, no officiant… we basically tossed tradition out on its ass and rebuilt “wedding” from the ground up hahaha.

Post # 23
5 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

We’re mixing some traditions and ditching others like I think most do now.

No garter anything.
Still debating bouquet toss. probably not though.
No one is walking me down the aisle
Probably no Parent dances… We’re still undecided on the bride/groom first dance.
We’ll probably write our own vows.
We may or may not have bachelorette/bachelor parties. If we do they will most certainly NOT be wild.
No receiving line.
No rehearsal dinner.
No unity ceremonies.
No dinner at all actually. It’s going to be a brunch/Tea buffet. Simple. Cheap. Classy. Delicious.

Post # 24
2449 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@tiffanyscanlan:  We’re doing a first look, no first dance, no cake cutting, no cake (cake pops instead!), no bouquet toss, no garter, no sit down dinner (but plenty of food/butler passed)

Ours is “formal”- because the dress I chose is very formal, the venue is formal- but we are super laid back- so we’re doing formal-chill I guess LOL

Post # 25
198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Like many others here, we’re not doing a bouquet/garter toss. Also no cake. No receiving line and no unity candel (though that’s kind of a new tradition so not sure that counts?!).


@MrsEME  – “formal chill” – I love it! I’m going to steal that if you don’t mind! I’d say ours is the same. My dress is formal and both our ceremony and reception venues are formal but we are not, so nothing else about the wedding will be formal!

Post # 27
17 posts
  • Wedding: March 2014

Finally a thread I can relate to! I feel like I am doing everything possible to avoid all the orchestrated wedding traditions. I want ZERO stress leading up to and on the day of the wedding. Therefore, we are having a short ceremony at a fabulous venue with amazing friends/family, delicious food, and a fun party. No engagement ring, bridal party, family involvement, no expensive white wedding dress, very limited picture taking, no first dance or parent dances, no tossing of anything, hopefully no clinking to kiss, no speeches, no cake cutting or receiving line and no head table. My Fiance and I are walking down the isle together so there will be no ‘giving away’ of the bride. I don’t have to worry about linens or decorations or bridesmaid drama. I feel so excited and stress free with the lack of planning. But when people ask me about the wedding and I tell them all this, they try to talk me into doing it – “well you have to cut the cake” and “what do you mean you don’t have an engagement ring” and “what kind of wedding doesn’t have bridesmaids” and “you’ll regret not having a first dance”. I feel so secure and liberated with the decisions we are making about not doing the traditional wedding things. I am so thankful that this process has been so easy. What is most annoying is how people excpect that all weddings have to have all of these elements. Don’t get me wrong – I’m not saying that people who participate in all of the traditions of a wedding are better than or less than. We are just doing it very simply and doing what works for us and we will have no regrets or disappointments of any kind. Just had to get that off my chest. Lol. 








Post # 28
17 posts
  • Wedding: March 2014

@MrsEME:  love it – formal-chill is the way to go! 

Post # 29
1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Ummm like none. Fist of all, we propsed to each other and both knew it was coming. My dress is butter yellow and knee-length:


No wedding party.

No religion whatsoever. Writing our own ceremony, in fact.

Walking in together, none of this aisle business or any gross notions of giving away property.

No gift registry!

No photographer! Really very little trappings of consumerism, beyond the basic comfort and feeding of our family and closest friends.

Quite literally everything is recycled or second hand, up to and including outfits and rings.

Shall I go on? 😛








Post # 30
1530 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

I had thought I could do away with all Chinese traditions and make our own, but my mother wouldn’t hear of it — “save face” is quite important in her view. We’re having a tea-ceremony and follow a pre-wedding and a post-wedding custom, involving auspicious dates to leave and return, mostly out of respect for the elders. 

NOT going to a fortune-teller to have our fortunes read (Apparently, it’s some Chinese tradition before couples could get engaged/married)
No kids jumping on the bridal bed, trying to get candies (Chinese tradition)
No ring-bearer
No flowers for the bridal party — we’d be holding onto parasols
No dress code
No killing nor roasting a pig (Chinese custom)
No bachelorette nor bridal showers (I enjoy hosting/attending these, but don’t quite enjoy being the centre of attention)
No changing into multiple dresses throughout wedding ceremony & reception (common Chinese expectation)
No favours, except for kids
No gift registry — since it’s a semi Destination Wedding, their presence is truly a gift.

I’ll be making my MOH/BM’s dress to her liking
My dress is tea-length and has got no train
A kid-friendly and dog-friendly family get together in lieu of showers

Post # 31
708 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

No garter toss

No bible scripture (this is traditional in my family)

Father not walking me down

Seeing fiancé before ceremony

No Maid/Matron of Honor

Mismatched bridesmaid dress

No kissing when glasses are clinked

Most likely no first ddance

No ring bearer/flower girl

No head table

Mingling with guests during cocktail 

Probably a few more I can’t recall



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