(Closed) What traditions are you skipping? Which are most important?

posted 4 years ago in Traditions
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

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trishk82 :  Fun thread! 🙂

Skipping

  • Bouquet/Garter toss – the whole point of me making paper flowers was to keep them, not chuck them about! I’m not sure I’ll wear a garter so that seems a bit odd too 😉
  • Being carried over the threshold – I’d like to see him try!

Keeping

  • Walking Down the Aisle – I’ll be walking down the Aisle to the Bridal March played by our Classical Pianist (on his little keyboard lol)
  • Something Old, New, Borrowed & Blue – I’ve got my Mum’s Petticoat (Old), Like everything I’m wearing (New lol), Her Swarovski Earrings (Borrowed), just stuck on ‘Blue’ at the moment!
  • Silver sixpence – Got one of those to go in my shoe (it’s a UK thing!)
  • Veil
  • Not seeing the Groom until the Ceremony
  • Favours
Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We skipped:

– Not seeing each other until the ceremony 

– Bouquet/Garter Toss

– Mother-Son Dance

– Traditional Vows (we wrote our own)

– Even wedding party

– Gender divided wedding party

– Matching bridesmaid dressses

– Something borrowed, something blue, something old, and something new

We Kept:

– The Cake Cutting

– First Dance

– Father-Daughter Dance

– Dad walking bride down aisle

– Favors

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Helper bee

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trishk82 :  We are leaving most traditions behind, because they don’t hold any meaning for us. We have to save so much for the wedding, I’m not willing to add aspects just because “it’s tradition.”

We are leaving out bouquet and garter toss (I don’t care to pit women against each other and the garter retrieval and toss, etc is just really uncomfortable for everyone imo). 

Also trying to figure out a way to make the favors double as something else useful (for example, the centerpieces…some kind of stacked confections or something – that way we save money sort of and also we don’t have to figure out what to do with these centerpieces now).

Not including flower girl/ring bearer. Not sure if this even qualifies as a tradition…but we don’t even know any children an we’re not just going to ask one of our friends randomly if their child can be in our wedding. (Also I don’t like kids that much, lol). Plus, at every single wedding I’ve been to, either the flower girl or the ring bearer was sobbing down the aisle.

We are still considering a first look – I am all for it in order to save time between ceremony and cocktail because I WANT that cocktail hour, man. My fiance is a little hesitant…but I think I can convince him by reminding him about the food at cocktail hour and our waiting guests…;)

We’d (okay it’s mainly me) like to eliminate flowers from the wedding altogether because 1) they are freaking expensive and 2) they are just gonna die real soon. I just don’t find that it is an effective way for us to spend money that day. I don’t need to carry anything down the aisle (in fact I will be walked down by both parents to problem solved), and my bridesmaids don’t need to carry anything either (in fact, a way around this could be to have them walk down the aisle with the groomsmen – as opposed to the groomsmen already being up there).

I just now thought about a guestbook? I personally don’t know what the purpose of that is. If it costs money, I’m not doing it lol. 

I’m also planning to write (sort of) the whole ceremony. Or at least approve every single thing the officiant will be saying. I want every word to be reflective of us – no fluff, no “well, that’s just what you say.”

Probably not a tradition, but also considering eliminating the champagne toast from our venue contract (if this saves money). Can anyone advise whether or not this would be weird? As in, when the toasts are happening people just hold up whatever drink they are drinking? My fiance seems to think this will “look tacky.”

 Okay I think that’s all lol. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

Skipping

  • Bouquet/Garter Toss – so awkard and the single girls never want to do it
  • Only having unmarried bridesmaids
  • Bridal March & Wedding chorus, using a modern song instead
  • A traditional first dance, having a celidh instead, we are not good dancers so don’t fancy being stared at whilst we sway roughly in time with the music. 
  • Wedding cake – we hope to do a cheese cake instead if the venue let us!
  • No Children are attending, we have too many people as is! 

Keeping

  • Not seeing the Groom until the ceremony – despite us staying in the same hotel the night before so we might have to be organised to avoid each other!
  • Something old, borrowed and blue – don’t know what yet though!
  • Speeches – The best bit of any wedding I think! 
  • Carring me over the threshold would be great if we remember! 
  • Confetti! – I love the confetti photo shots! 
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

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trishk82 :  My Mum has offered me her Garter but… I don’t know. I thought about blue ribbon to hold some photos on my bouquet? Otherwise, Fiance is wearing a blue suit so he’ll do 😉 

I forget that ‘Mum’ is a UK thing lol 🙂

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samjam :  I’ve known people to skip the champagne toast before – wouldn’t bother me as I’d probably raise my cocktail anyway 😉 

x

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2017

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samjam :  I am also considering not having a champagne toast. I’ve had the champagne that my venue provides and I don’t care for the taste of it. My fiancé would rather just “cheers” with a beer lol! I say it’s the well wishes of the toast that matter, not the drink in your hand 😊

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

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samjam :  Most weddings I’ve been too skipped the champagne toast. People will just toast with what they have. There’s no rule that you can only toast with champagne and it won’t look tacky.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

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samjam :  I think toasting with whatever drink you have in your hand is fine!

However we are doing a “Champagne” Toast as actually a glass of Prosecco per person is cheaper than other drinks as you get more glasses in a bottle. There are amazing sparkling wines and prosecco out there and they are a lot cheaper than champers, if you still wanted bubbles 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I mentioned to Milord LeSquirrel that I had no intention of allowing the garter toss, and he got very, very pale and in a very polite tone told me he had no intention of ever reaching up my skirt when our mothers were present, not for a garter toss or anything else!  

 

 

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