We are leaving most traditions behind, because they don’t hold any meaning for us. We have to save so much for the wedding, I’m not willing to add aspects just because “it’s tradition.”
We are leaving out bouquet and garter toss (I don’t care to pit women against each other and the garter retrieval and toss, etc is just really uncomfortable for everyone imo).
Also trying to figure out a way to make the favors double as something else useful (for example, the centerpieces…some kind of stacked confections or something – that way we save money sort of and also we don’t have to figure out what to do with these centerpieces now).
Not including flower girl/ring bearer. Not sure if this even qualifies as a tradition…but we don’t even know any children an we’re not just going to ask one of our friends randomly if their child can be in our wedding. (Also I don’t like kids that much, lol). Plus, at every single wedding I’ve been to, either the flower girl or the ring bearer was sobbing down the aisle.
We are still considering a first look – I am all for it in order to save time between ceremony and cocktail because I WANT that cocktail hour, man. My fiance is a little hesitant…but I think I can convince him by reminding him about the food at cocktail hour and our waiting guests…;)
We’d (okay it’s mainly me) like to eliminate flowers from the wedding altogether because 1) they are freaking expensive and 2) they are just gonna die real soon. I just don’t find that it is an effective way for us to spend money that day. I don’t need to carry anything down the aisle (in fact I will be walked down by both parents to problem solved), and my bridesmaids don’t need to carry anything either (in fact, a way around this could be to have them walk down the aisle with the groomsmen – as opposed to the groomsmen already being up there).
I just now thought about a guestbook? I personally don’t know what the purpose of that is. If it costs money, I’m not doing it lol.
I’m also planning to write (sort of) the whole ceremony. Or at least approve every single thing the officiant will be saying. I want every word to be reflective of us – no fluff, no “well, that’s just what you say.”
Probably not a tradition, but also considering eliminating the champagne toast from our venue contract (if this saves money). Can anyone advise whether or not this would be weird? As in, when the toasts are happening people just hold up whatever drink they are drinking? My fiance seems to think this will “look tacky.”
Okay I think that’s all lol.