(Closed) What traditions are you skipping? Which are most important?

posted 5 years ago in Traditions
Post # 31
1767 posts
Buzzing bee

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trishk82 : We’re skipping and keeping the same stuff as in your list (still a little iffy about the favors).

Post # 32
3045 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course


First look at the aisle – Important to Fiance, I’d prefer to get all pics out of the way

Not seeing one another the night before

Cake Cutting

Flowers – birds of paradise


White Dress – chose blue instead

Flower Girl & Ring Bearer

Church Wedding – both raised Catholic but prefer an (extremely brief) outdoor ceremony

Favors – Seems like a waste of effort and money

Old/New/Borrowed/Blue – Extra crap to worry about

Garter/Bouquet Toss – Eww

Wedding March Music – Almost certain I’ll be walking to Anita Bakers Angel

Dances – Pass

Speeches – except my Maid/Matron of Honor who insists on speaking. She’s restricted to 3 minutes or less…fingers crossed

Walked down the aisle & given away – All the nopes!

Post # 33
170 posts
Blushing bee

We are nixing: 

  • The garter toss
  • Champagne toast
  • Flower girl/ring bearer
  • Wedding cake (going in favor of cupcakes and other desserts)
  • Traditional wedding march/ceremony music
  • Not seeing each other until I walk down the aisle
  • Even bridal party
  • Matching bridesmaids dresses

We’re keeping/Adding:

  • Writing our own vows and ceremony
  • Favors
  • Father-daughter dance
  • Dad walking me down the aisle
  • First dance
  • Bouquet toss
  • Alternative guest book

And we’re still deciding on some of the other stuff like speeches and the whole something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue thing. 

Post # 34
578 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017


Bouquet/garter toss (no signle friends, awkward, etc.)

Ceremony programs (most people know how weddings go)

^^ though I love those cute signs I have seen on Pinterest that have a timeline on it. I may or may not do this. We’ll see how crafty I am feeling.


Not seeing each other until I walk down the aisle.

Cake, all the first dances, speeches, etc.

Old, new, borrowed, blue.

Not being together the night before.




Post # 35
1015 posts
Bumble bee

We skipped:

– First Dance: Too cringe for both of us and we don’t have an ‘our song’.

– Father giving bride away: I don’t see my Dad so Mum gave me away.

– ‘You may kiss the bride’: Just not us, so we skipped it. No-one noticed.

– Champagne: Prosecco is cheaper and I prefer it so had that for the toasts instead.

Post # 36
560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017 - France

It’s easier to say what we’re keeping as we’re skipping almost everything.


Walk down the aisle

Wedding Lehenga (not in a traditional color though)


I can’t think of anything else we’re keeping.

Post # 39
1727 posts
Bumble bee

We got married in June! We skipped or modified a lot of traditions.

We stayed together the night before and we got ready separately. So he never saw me in my dress until the ceremony.

I walked myself down the aisle. The parents and bridal party walked down to VSQ Sweet Child of Mine. I walked down to The String Quartet Here Comes the Sun.

We put together our ceremony order. Including our love letter and wine box unity ceremony. We used non traditional vows that we pieced together from various sources.

My cousin got ordained online to perform our ceremony.

Our exit song was VSQ Throne Room from Star Wars.

I changed into a reception dress.

We hosted 3 kegs of beer, soda, and water (so semi-open bar).

No champagne for toasts. 

My uncle said the prayer before dinner (Common Table Prayer).

We had a buffet (best decision ever).

We had cheesecake for cutting and a dessert table with cookies, cream puffs, fruit tarts, various puff pastry, etc. DELICIOUS! We also had some candy in our wedding colors at the tables.

We skipped favours!

We did the traditional dances. Father/daughter dance was to a short and fast(ish) song.

We skipped bouquet/garter tosses in favor of an anniversary dance.

My earrings were Old and Borrowed (once belonged to my grandmother, borrowed from my mom). New was my lace shrug that my seamstress made for me (my dress I purchased over 4 years ago). My seamstress also sewed a small Blue ribbon into the seam in my dress. 

My DH did not carry me over anything, we were too drunk, lol. 

We got married on Saturday, June 11, then left for our honeymoon (in Canada) on Sunday.

We got married on a palindrome 6-11-16!

Post # 40
5040 posts
Bee Keeper

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trishk82 :  The candy bar to take home with small bags or boxes is a favor itself. Edible favors are a crowd favorite. 

Post # 41
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’m skipping bouquet and garter toss. Keeping not seeing each other till I walk down the aisle!

Post # 42
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

we’re keeping not seeing each other before the ceremony, first dance and possibly having a bouqet toss, but otherwise either changed or not having other traditions at all; my dad passed years ago so mum will be walking me down the aisle (to one of his favourite songs if i can handle it), no best man or moh,no traditional dances and we’re having dougnuts instead of a wedding cake, so no cake cutting. It’s likely, it will be only Fiance making a speech so i guess that doesnt follow tradition either. 

Post # 43
600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016


First look at the aisle – it made the moment really special and emotional

Father walking down the aisle 

First Dance

Father/Daughter Dance

Mother/Son Dance

Bridesmaids and Groomsmen



Something new, old, borrowed, blue


Traditional music down the aisle


Flower girl/ring bearer

Ceremony programs

Traditional cake (we had cupcakes with a top round)

Bouquet toss 

Garter toss (too awkward)

No bride/groom exit–we helped clean up

No champagne for toasts

Didn’t hire transportation


Alternative guest book (we ordered a framed tree with wooden leaves and guests signed the leaves–from Etsy)

Post # 44
1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018


  • Not sleeping together the night before (we live together)
  • Bouquet/Garter toss
  • Flower girl/Ring bearer
  • Ceremony Programs
  • Guests seated on either “bride’s side” or “groom’s side” (All my family lives 3000+ miles away, so very few if any of my extended relatives will be there. I don’t want a sad empty side 🙁
  • Getting married in a church
  • Top table for the wedding party (they can sit with their SO’s)
  • Limo
  • Spending the wedding night in a hotel


  • Matching bridesmaid dresses
  • Even numbers in wedding party
  • Something old, new, borrowed, blue
  • Veil, white dress
  • Father walking down the aisle
  • Father/Daughter, Mother/Son Dance
  • First Dance
  • Champagne toast (It is included with venue, just the Bridesmaid or Best Man and MOH)
  • Favors (I’m going to have a blast with them)


  • Alternative guest book
  • Unity candle


Post # 45
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre

We are skipping the garter and bouquet toss.

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