(Closed) What type of Bee couple are you?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Are you and your significant other traditional or nontraditional ?
    I'm traditional, My SO is traditional too! : (38 votes)
    27 %
    I'm nontraditional. My SO is traditional :) : (21 votes)
    15 %
    I'm nontraditional, my SO is nontraditional too! : (45 votes)
    32 %
    I'm traditional, my SO is nontraditional :) : (6 votes)
    4 %
    When it comes to the wedding we are neither more traditional nor nontraditional : (32 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
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    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    @proverbs131:  I said both non just so I don’t select the dreaded “it depends” because I think it technically depends for most people… but by the terms you’re speaking of, I think we’re both fairly non-traditional. Neither of us want to offend anyone and sometimes we do things because of that, but generally we do what makes sense. We’re both very thinky people, and we always question why a lot of things are how they are or why people do what they do, and feel a lot of people are just sheep. lol

    I dislike pointless things in general… but some things are fun/enjoyable despite being pointless, so I guess it depends on what you mean.

    Typically though, I’m very unusual/odd, and a lot of people have said so. lol Several people have said I’m “very unique”… many guys add “especially for a girl.” haha. 

    I think fiance was more typical in a lot of ways, but I’ve inspired a more atypical nature in him that he’s seemed to embrace. haha

     

    So do you have any examples? Like between traditional and non, or when you or your siblings bump heads because of it? I don’t know if I exactly know what you mean…

    Post # 4
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    3092 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m definitely the one who worties anout traditions and such.  Fiance is much more laid back.  but I’m also a very outside of the box person.  I find it useful to lnow what is expected so I can make decisions that are thoughtful but always do what I believe is right for me/us.

    Post # 6
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    4049 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    For life in general, I’d say overall we’re both traditional, but I am much more borderline than he is. He’s much more willing to just go with the flow in order to please people, whereas I’ll fuss and would rather do something that suits me even if it bothers others. But generally I don’t diverge.

    Post # 7
    Member
    12956 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I am super traditional, and Fiance is definitely not.  My mother gave me an etiquette book as an engagement gift, and my Future Mother-In-Law said, “don’t worry about etiquette, it doesn’t matter!”  — So, it’s been interesting trying to plan. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    3982 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We were a little bit of both. We stuck to our guns on some traditional stuff but being intrrfaith we had to be a bit untraditional too. We also added our own flair to some traditional things while we left others alone

     

    Post # 9
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    2269 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Both FI-to-be and I are traditional to a point, me more so then him.

    Our wedding for example, in my eyes should be as traditional as possible, where as he wants what he wants, regardless of “old rules”. We’re slowly agreeing on what traditional aspects he cannot stand and which I cannot see my wedding being without.

    Post # 10
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    8042 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @proverbs131:  For life in general I think we are both fairly traditional, more conservative etc.

    There are some things that I suppose we’re both not particularly traditional on, but for the most part I’d say we’re both fairly old fashioned. I suppose a way we’re not old fashioned is that we both work and he does more household chores than I do!

    Wedding-wise we seem to be fairly non-traditional, like I am picking the ring and we are going to elope vs. having that big, traditional ceremony.

    I think in life we both pick and choose traditions that make sense to us vs. doing something just because it’s always been done that way… but we don’t disagree w. some traditions like a lot of people do.

    Post # 11
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    628 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @proverbs131:  Perfect timing for me to respond to this post as we worked on one of our ceremonies last night.

    I thought that we were both rather non-traditional in nature. Fiance never does anything just for the sake of meeting societal expectations, nor do I. Everything from our proposal to our rings has been non-traditional thus far.

    However, we’re putting together our idea of a ceremony last night. It will be outdoors, in a tent if it is raining. We definitely wanted a circle as opposed to having the whole procession etc. and we definitely wanted to write our own ceremony/vows.

    But, when it started to come together with somewhat of ‘a procession’ to the circle, and I started to incorporate some of the traditional “I do” vows with the things we had written, he really liked it.

    In the end, he was pleased that it combined both traditional and non-traditional. I was more than a little surprised when he admitted that it made him feel ‘better’ about our ceremony. Now I’m bugging him about being a ‘closet traditionalist’ lol. 

    Post # 12
    Hostess
    2556 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We’re more non-traditional, but there are a few traditional things that I value.

    Post # 13
    Member
    2084 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    We definitely are sticking with are Christian culture but when comes to our reception we are definitely non-traditional!

    Post # 14
    Member
    418 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m more non-traditional than Fiance is, but I’m not totally out there. Like, I want my girls to wear any pretty blue dress they want- doesn’t have to be the same shade or style. Fiance seemed shocked that I didn’t want the guys to wear tuxes. He also raised an eyebrow when I mentioned eloping and having a party sometime in the future. HE wants a wedding, so an awesome wedding we will have 🙂

    Post # 15
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    732 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    we’re off beat for sure. My ex use to have a punk style and still has the attitude and i myself was goth, still am at heart with a bohemian/hippie style the wedding is basically reflecting us. I chose a traditional dress cus thats what I fell inlove with. my Fiance is going non traditional with his attire. very gothic/punk casual. IF there were to be a theme… it would be “elegant gothic victorian afternoon shindig” ..yeah.. thats what im going to call it haha everything else abotu the wedding is pretty non traditional

    Post # 16
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    3825 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @proverbs131:  we are traditional but easy going. we make decisions together really easily and he defers to me on most things. it’s been great so far.

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