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Newly engaged here (less than a week ago), and starting to think about all things wedding of course! Timeframe is likely next summer or fall, but we haven’t set anything yet. Part of what we first need to determine is type of wedding, then location, then timing.. I want to either elope somewhere amazing just him and I (I’ve been married before and done the big wedding thing, I’m not interested in doing that again and would like much more low key this time) or he might want something extremely small and intimate that includes some family and very close friends. We are still discussing, and frankly I’ll be flexible because while I’ve done it before he hasn’t and so I don’t want to take his family out of it if he really wants them there.
So I’m thinking dresses and that time is a little short for a traditional dress where I should start right away looking if that’s what I want. What about if we did elope to like Hawaii etc though, that could drastically change the type of dress I might want.
I’m curious, for those who eloped or had very small ceremonies with family, how long ahead did you start looking for your dress, how fancy did you go, and did you still use a traditional bridal shop for your purchase? My first time around I had a very fancy dress that was heavy and a gown with petticoat under etc. This time I’d like more comfort, less material/weight, but still fabulous and intricate in its own way if that makes any sense! Will be different styles based on location so I guess that is a big thing to figure out.
I think I’ve answered myself just writing this that I should start peeking in bridal shops and see if they have way more toned down things appropriate for a beach/cliffside/mountaintop ceremony etc., I honestly can’t really remember because I guess I was very focused on my agenda at the time. Are there other places you’d recommend looking as well?
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We had an intimate wedding with six of our very close friends/family with one of the six standing as officiant. I didn’t want a big fancy dress that was really expensive to wear for only an hour or two…but I did want to feel pretty and bridal. My top came from BHLDN and my skirt from Etsy and I crocheted a cardigan to wear. The skirt came from the Ukraine so it took about 3 weeks after I gave her my measurements. But from the day he proposed to the day we married was about two months!
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windywhirl : We had a courthouse wedding, I didn’t want to spend a lot on a dress that I was only going to wear once, and I hate the looks of floor length dresses on me so I ordered like 10 dresses from Lulu’s and had two that I was deciding between. Then, like two weeks before the wedding I was browsing the internet and found one from David’s Bridal that I ended up getting and wearing. It was only like $600 and it fit really well so I didn’t have to bother with any alterations.
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We also had an intimate wedding with 6 other guests, and I got a dress from a high street store (Phase Eight, don’t think that exists in the US.) It was actually very heavy and beaded and totally impractical, but also not super bridal but still glam, which is what I was after.
Please ignore the weird faces (one of the only photos I’ve got that shows the full dress) & green scarf, it was an emergency addition as my actual shrug didn’t go with the flowers and it was freezing!
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hispanicimpressions : These pictuers are so gorgeous. I actually love the green scarf!!
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windywhirl : I had years to figure out what I didn’t want in a dress, then found one on unique vintage that I coveted. Luckily when he finally got around to asking, they still carried it… it’s gone now. White, eyelet lace swing dress. Then to have my favorite color, I had an orange crinoline underneath so it wasn’t overwhelming as orange can be. I didn’t need to have it altered but I wish I had anyway… it needed a higher hem.
Anyway that’s a good website for inexpensive, lightweight and fun.
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- Wedding: May 2019 - York, ME
300bride : Where did you get your pink sweater/jacket? It’s so cute!
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2019 - York, ME
I got my dress from Lulus, they have a lot of bridal looking dresses for great prices! Mine was $210.
Post # 10
We eloped to Hawaii and I had a dress from a German bridal outlet. I went to the real deal and they were beyond rude and unfriendly and told me that I could go and have a look in an outlet store. So I did. Found me dream dress for 350€. It was so cheap because it was “last season” and to small to be sold anyhow. So I was super happy. The dress will now either go to my friend who loved it so much and is getting married next year or I will exchange the top layer and the sash with a different color fabric and wear it to a ball next year.
Post # 11
windywhirl : Ohh congrats on the engagement!!
You needn’t worry: there is sooooo much on the market with everything from virtually casual to typically bridal, I am sure you’ll find something.
I found looking at stillwhite really helpful to get a general idea about what dresses looked like on real bodies. Also there is a huge range of differents dresses on different bodies and different weddings. Check it out if only just to get a very general idea. You can buy new for sure from lots of places with shorter notice. (BDHLN etc)
We eloped (just us two) to Denmark and it was wonderful! My dress packed well (I had it folded up in a box actually) and I hug it up, ironed slightly and was good to go (silk crepe)
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windywhirl : Things get marked as spam on this site all the time even though they’re not. I think it might have something to do with editing the post a lot? Anyway, it’s nothing personal, just a weird glitch.
I didn’t elope BUT if I’d had a more casual ceremony I love the wedding dresses from Modcloth. Especially these two:
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2019 - City, State
We’re doing an extremely small ceremony (around 20 people), and I still went the traditional bridal route! Just because I don’t want the traditional wedding doesn’t mean I can’t still have the gown experience. I also had a similar timeframe (engaged July, wedding is in May), and my dress will be ready and altered in plenty of time.
But, since you’ve done that before maybe you don’t want to go that traditional. But eloping or small ceremonies don’t necessarily mean you can’t go full bridal, but it’s all about what feels right! I agree with PP that Lulu’s has some lovely dresses.
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2018 - Mount Princeton hot springs
We eloped in Colorado! You can officiate your own wedding there so it was truly just the two of us on a mountain. We did hire a professional photographer to come later that day and take photos so we would have some documentation of the day for ourselves and our families and I am so glad we did that part. I bought my dress for th photos from Lulus. Lots of super affordable options!
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co_katherine : Thank you!! I actually made it for the wedding. 🙂