Post # 1
Ok, so I have a DJ, two photographers, two videographers, two planners, two photo booth attendants… do I need to feed all 9 people with the standard buffet I’m having?
Is there ettiquette associated with this?
That seems like a LOT of money.
On another note, should they be allowed to drink alcohol? My planner made a joke about drinking wine, but I’m now a little concerned that she actually plans on drinking….
Post # 3
Usually there will be vendor meals through your venue. You should ask about it.
And no, in fact one of the photographer’s I talked to said they would not drink alcohol even if offered- they joked that if I wanted good pictures I shouldn’t offer them alcohol!
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
I don’t know the actual etiquette, but from how I see it, if these people are with you for a substantial amount of time, then yes, you have to feed them. Our photographers will be with us for 9 hours–there’s no way we can’t not feed them. If some of your vendors will only there for a few hours (maybe the photo booth attendants or your DJ), then I think you don’t have to feed them. But it would still be nice.
Drinking is a whole other matter. If they’re there to do a job, I really don’t think they should be drinking at all. But that’s just my opinion. I don’t know standard practice/etiquette.
Post # 5
I just wanted to add that I do think you should feed your vendors- there might be a cheaper option however.
Post # 6
We fed our photographers and DOC’s. The DJ’s may have eaten as well but I don’t know. Our photographer included it in our contract and even if they hadn’t, I would have insisted. They are working all day for me, they need food too!!
Post # 7
Our caterer offered us vendor meals – which were basically cold sandwiches and wraps. They were about a tenth of the cost of a regular meal. However, when I looked at some of the other vendor contracts, they specified that the vendor should be served a “Hot meal” I think vendor meals are getting more popular, so vendors are specifying what kind of meal they want in the contract….just something to think about. So now all our vendors are having the same meal as our guests.
We are feeding the photobooth operator, the photographer, the DJ, and a band.
Post # 8
We are feeding our vendors. We are having a buffet. The caterer said that the vendors usually just grab a plate and eat it quickly somewhere during down time. Our photographer said she never really takes photos during the meal (who would want photos of us eating anyway!) so I assume she will grab something then.
In my state its actually illegal for anyone providing a service (ie working for you) to drink. Our planner informed us of that. However even if it wasnt illegal I would be very annoyed if I found out one of the vendors was drinking during the reception. I hired them to be professional.
Post # 9
Thanks! I think I just freaked when my planner told me she was going to go off in a corner and stuff her face with wine and gelato… I really hope she was at LEAST joking about the wine part!
Post # 10
Also, do you have seperate tables for vendors during dinner? My planner said we might need them, but I was under the impression they would still be working during dinner….do we need to reserve seats for them at tables?
Post # 11
@staceynrick: As a wedding planner and DOC (I know this sounds rude) I expect dinner…for instance…the wedding I am doing tomorrow, I will be with the bride from 9:00 am to 1:00am the next day. I would be willing to go grab dinner but then that would leave the wedding unattended for an hour or so…which i dont fell comfortable doing.
Most of your vendors will be the same, your photogs will b with you for alteast 8 hours..so they will need something to eat. I think in the long run it would cost more to lose some pictures of something cool during dinner or having all hell break loose, then to just give them some food 🙂
As for booze? I dont know. I never ever ever drink at a wedding…i mean would you drink at your regular full time job? I did have a drink at the very first wedding I did. They were dancing and I was no longer needed till clean up (2.5 hours later) I had one drink and took it to my little (hidden) corner and had it. I was so nervous and just exhausted, and it helped.