(Closed) What was easier than you expected in planning? And harder?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I thought it would take me FOREVER to find a dress. I am horrible at making decisions but fell in love with the first dress I tried on and bought it! The hardest part just had to be keeping my cool and not freaking out about things. My nerves were a wreck the entire year and a half of planning!

Post # 4
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

After we decided on a “theme,” food was easy.  Our favorite local Italian place cut us a great deal and did a fabulous job.  I still remember the owner of the restaurant telling me, “A bride’s got a million things to worry about, but this ain’t gonna be one of them.  We got this.”  And he was right!

Music (for the ceremony) was WAY harder than I expected.  Most of that was the crazy church lady, though.  I surrendered control of a lot of the reception music.

Post # 5
3943 posts
Honey bee

I agree, invites were a pain in the butt. My husband designed and printed them, but assembling them took a lot longer than we expected.

Bridesmaid dresses were by far the easiet for me. We went to Davids Bridal and I picked the length and color. My 4 girls picked their favorite style, tried it on and paid for it in under 30 minutes. Our consultant said it was the easist appointment she’s ever had! haha

My dress on the other hand took about 4 months longer to find…

Post # 6
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Honestly the actual planning itself has been easy for me!  It helps to have a fiance that works on the road the majority of the time (thus forcing us to make get the big things done much sooner rather than later).

The hardest part has been the dang dress fittings.  I have been freaking about how the dress will look (the fitting room mirrors are so unkind) which his morphed into my weight and dress size anxiety. 

Post # 7
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

Almost everything was easier than I expected! Booking vendors, finding a dress, etc. The hardest part is all the stationary…assembling the invites took a long time. The guest list involved some drama. And now, the thank you cards are killing me. 

Food was definitely the easiest – we treated our tastings as dates, and we actually had a ton of fun!

Post # 8
11 posts
  • Wedding: January 2011

Easier than expected was the photographer. She was amazing and everything just went well. The photos were really important to me.

Harder than expected: the responand from family and friends not wanting to come to the wedding and fighting with me since I live in a different country. So only 1 person from my side came. 

Post # 9
361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Easier then expected:  Finding a photographer.  We found only one photographer in our price range who took pictures that we loved.

Harder then expected:  Choosing STD’s and invitations.  There were so many beautiful ones on so many different websites that I found it near impossible to pick stationary.  I could never narrow them down and I would feel really overwhelmed. I ended up going off the beaten path completely and having our stationary hand designed in a local store.  

Post # 10
623 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It took me almost 5 months to find a wedding dress that I loved, that was hard and it was soul destroying trying on dress after dress.


Easiest has been the small details that I usually fuss over- shoes (10 mins), earrings (15 mins), veil (5 mins) 🙂

Post # 11
947 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Easier: dress, caterer/food

Harder: Honeymoon! Deciding on a location was incredibly difficult

Choosing Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses has also been a pain in the butt. 

Post # 12
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013


–  Choosing the dress!  I tried on five dresses, but bought the second dress I tried on.  I knew the moment I put it on that it was ‘the one’!

–  Picking a ceremony/reception venue.  Our venue is about half-way between both of our families, and will be doing the catering for the wedding, too.  It’s not the exact food I want, but for the price and the location, it couldn’t be passed up!

–  Photographer.  Our photographer did my FI’s cousin’s wedding, and did a great job. It was a no brainer to hire him.



–  Getting a general timeline together and getting time to pick out other vendors.  I live over an hour away from the venue and my family, so I’ve been doing a lot of planning/looking using my laptop.  

–  Finding a DJ.  My Fiance and I are not big partiers/dancers, and want a lot of input as to what music will be played.  We’re alternative/rock music lovers, and the last thing I want is 4 hours of Top 40 music or lame wedding songs played at our reception.

–  Honeymoon.  We still don’t know where we’re going or how we’ll pay for it.

Post # 13
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Easiest? Almost everything, so far. 

Hardest? Getting things paid for. Parents want to help, but they’re being very vague. It’s frustrating because I know how much they paid towards FBIL’s wedding, and we’re not asking for anywhere near that.

Post # 14
1544 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Easier: photographer and deciding on a dress.

Harder: um everything else. lol

Post # 15
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013


Location, we both loved it!

Inlaws: expected more drama but they are pleasently involved

Music: we agreed quickly


Honeymoon, took a while to agree and we compromised.

Invitations, i see alot of girls agree. Took way longer than expected.

Rings: how do you pick something you need to love forever?

Guestlist: new this would be a tough one.

Post # 16
551 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think the majority of things took longer and had a lot more detail to figure out than either of us had ever imagined-like everything sort of has a domino affect that we weren’t really anticiating and didnt really see it until we really got into the heart of planning.

Easy-photographer, he is awesome and gave me a custom quote and has been really easy to work with.

Harder-reading the fine lines between the lines: we didnt realize there is an additional fee for sevice, gratuity, taxes on our total, or that soft drinks are per beverage and not per person -booze was tough too, missed the $3 upcharge per person for dinner rates in the tiny print on the very bottom, last page of the venue menu.

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