- 9 years ago
- Wedding: December 2008
Last night on BeeTV, we talked a bit at the end of the time about genuine weddings vs. purely "expensive" weddings, and how genuine weddings at any budget are more beautiful than weddings that are more about the dollar value than the meaning.
So I started wondering:
What, regardless of cost, was/will be the most beautiful part of your wedding?
What was/will be the most beautiful cheap/free thing?
What was/will be (this might be harder for non-newlyweds to answer) the least necessary high-money-value thing?
And solely for the newlyweds — what did your guests comment favorably on the most, and how much (percentage of budget or dollar value) did it cost?
I’ll start —
I think the most beautiful thing in our wedding was the music. I am a big, big music person and it was a high priority for me. We chose two very meaningful hymns for the guests to sing with us, one of them being a modified version of the Navy hymn with verses to honor each of the Armed Forces represented in my husband’s family (he was Coast Guard and we have Army and Air Force as well). It was so, so beautiful to stand there and sing (until I couldn’t anymore because I was crying) with my family and friends all around me — our college choir director was there and I could hear his distinctive voice above the rest. I think everyone cried, even my husband and his dad.
This was my cheap/free thing too, along with the prayer my dad did after he gave me away, and our special music. We hired for beans the chair of our college music department and his wife to play piano for us — both are concert-level musicians and they did a duet together for our special music which I thought was very symbolic, as a husband and wife working together, each in their own way, to create something beautiful and harmonious.
As to what I spent money on and probably didn’t need to… I’m not sure. I didn’t spend a lot of money on ANYTHING, but for me, I think I shouldn’t have stressed so much about my invitations. They were way less than I was hoping for, but they just weren’t my thing to worry about. Some people have gorgeous invitations that they slave over, and I say kudos to them, but it just wasn’t me.
What guests commented on — I won’t be a lot of help here, as mostly the guests commented on non-tangibles, ie "It was personal" "It was intimate", etc.
I’d really love to see other’s perspectives on this! Let’s brag on our weddings a little.