(Closed) What was the hardest thing to adjust to?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I didnt realzie Darling Husband was so messy! it was hard having to clean up after someone else and not just myself! and he works at a feed yard with cows all day and the stink was not easy to get used to when he got home, oh and he doesnt showera as soon as he gets home and that drives me nuts!! go clean your filthy self! haha

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Biggest thing to adjust to for me was the amount of food he ate! He would literally snack all day and night between meals and before bed. Granted my husband is very active and athletic, but still… I had to account for way more groceries than expected!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

This is going to make me sound younger than I was (a month away from turning 24), but I missed my parents. I still do, sometimes. I went to college about 30 minutes away from their house, and then I lived with them for a year and a half after I graduated until I got married. Darling Husband himself was pretty easy to get used to, we had dated for three and a half years, so I already knew his quirks.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We didn’t move in together until after the wedding, and I am still having a hard time dealing with his messiness….I am overly clean, anal really….but I just hate his sloppy mess, especially when he leaves his clothes on the floor next to the bed every day and a night, and his excuse…what I am going to use the jeans again….REALLY?!!!!

 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

For me it was that there was someone around all the time. When I moved out of my parents house for college, I lived on campus with a roomate who was always in her bf’s room and went home every weeked, then lived alone in an apartment and rental house for the next year and a half. So now I just need personal space sometimes and he is here all the time! I got used to it not mattering if I started my laundry at 3 AM or cleaned house all night, but Darling Husband work starts early in the morning so he is in bed at like 10. Which is when I am just getting started! 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

I’m the opposite of most of you – I never realized just how messy I am until we moved in together…  My standards of cleanliness are apparently lower (at least tidiness wise – I’m a stickler when it comes to actual cleaning).  I wasn’t used to someone being there who would expect a cleaner house, because I wasn’t as concerned with my own mess when I lived alone.  The mess also seemed to be a lot smaller, too…

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Believe it or not, there was nothing to adjust to. I expected moving in with my Fiance would be awful and it was so easy. I guess, if I had to pick the most annoying thing, is having to wake up at different times and having to either be woken up or having to sneak around and be quiet in the mornings. But that’s not any different than if you lived with a roommate, really. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m still adjusting to his cleaning habits and now much he eats! Im also not used to someone being around while I watch my bad tv shows and do girl stuff. Other than that, it’s been good.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I haven’t moved in with my Fiance yet, but I did live with an ex for about 4 yrs. Me and my ex clearly moved in too soon, I had no idea what a complete lazy slob he was until it was too late. 

Thankfully, me and Fiance already know all of eachothers quirks, I think if you don’t rush things and are always honest with eachother there won’t be any very big surprises. I already know my Fiance likes to go to extremes on both ends of things, he will go from always cleaning up after himself to letting the dishes pile up for a week or two, just like I know that the moment he gets home from work he removes his socks and deposits them on the floor in the living room.     

Post # 12
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Busy bee

@seevan07:  & @chasesgirl:  exactly, I’m so used to having my alone time and my own space.  i’ve been living on my own for over 2 years now.  it makes me nervous thinking about someone being there all the time (we have similar 9-5/mon-fri schedules).  i told him that when we start looking for a place, we’ll need a 2 bedroom apt for sure.  i cannot be cooped up with the only options being bedroom or living room.  it seems so claustrophobic

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@lolaswann:  We have a two bedroom but it’s small. We are moving into a nicer, bigger one and turning the second room into a guest room/office. Im hoping to hide out in there or in our room when Fiance watches batman cartoons in the living room. That way I can do my nails while watching project runway in peace.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

@seevan07:  there was that episode of sex and the city when aiden first moves in and carrie freaks out so she puts up a sheer curtain divider in the middle of her apt and tells him to pretend she’s not there for an hour.  lol i totally get it, if i want to lounge around in my underwear and pluck my eyebrows, i don’t need an audience.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Cleaning twice as much, more often, but quadruple the mess with ONE extra person. GAH!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The hardest thing was getting used to cooking everyday! i barely cooked when I lived with my parents and although my food is good, i dont like the kitchen! And also getting used to his nasty habits e.g., him clipping his toes and leaving all that mess for me to pick up, also him using the toilet and peeing all over the toilet seat, yack, i fixed the whole nail clipping situation, but have not been able to fix the toilet situation….. Any advice??..lol

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