(Closed) what was the most frustrating part of your wedding planning?

posted 6 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

My makeup artist was such a pain in the butt about returning calls and emails that I decided she was too flaky to depend on for my wedding day, so I fired her.  

I also had a cake vendor who I was considering who would take weeks to respond to emails and didn’t do tastings on weekends.  I wasn’t about to take time off work for that, so found someone else.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

So far, the most frustrating things have been the rings and the music.

I had the hardest time picking out my wedding band!! After 4 stores, I finally found the one and I can’t wait for it to come in ๐Ÿ™‚

The music is stressful because my Fiance is very particular about music so we can’t seem to agree on anything for the major stuff like the first dance (we finally found something), the entrance into the reception, etc. He also freaked when I told him I wasn’t walking down the aisle to “Here Comes the Bride”. Silly but true. I hate that song and there was no way I walking to it. So he kept shooting down all the alternatives I suggested. Needless to say, I said screw it, I’m walking downt to whatever I want lol.

The only other frustrating part deals with my venue. It’s up for sale so we are kind of in limbo in regards to knowing what will happen after the sale. But I’m trying not to focus on this because if I did, I’d probably have a mental breakdown.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@HeLovesDogs:  unfortunately it is being sold. It was owned by this family, things got nasty, and the court ordered them to liquidate the assets (they had other properties as well). My mother spoke with the Vice President of the realty company that’s handling the sale and he told her that there are several interested buyers and the sale should be completed by May. So we pretty much have to wait around and hope that the buyer honors all existing contracts and then does whatever they want to the hotel. If they decide to demolish it or not honor the contracts, we are pretty much screwed because that wouldn’t leave us with enough time to find another venue. Most likely, I would cancel everything and have a destination wedding because I refuse to push the wedding back.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@HeLovesDogs:  thank you. Hope the rest of your planning goes by smoothly ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one getting frustrated with vendors and their lack of communication. I feel a bit bridezilla-y when I get so upset when I don’t hear back from someone. Honestly out of the dozens of people I’ve contacted, I haven’t heard back from about 1/2. About 1/4 have taken 2 MONTHS! to email me back. I know people lead busy lives and my wedding isn’t first on their to do list but it doesn’t seem like a proper way to run a business. If I had contacted companies for reasons other than my wedding and they took so long to get back to me I would be equally as pissed. I contacted one caterer in mid-November and didn’t hear back from them until late January. All they told me was that they were already booked for my date. Obviously they were just waiting to see if they could get a bigger wedding order for the same date and keeping me on the back burner. I’ve chosen who to contacted based on research and word of mouth but I’ve chosen vendors almost entirely based on just getting back to me. I never thought it would be so difficult to simply get people on the phone to give them money. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Now that my wedding is over the most frustrating thing was getting my husband to do something, especially stuff related to guests.

Our venders were all great to deal with and am soooo glad I went with those people.

The last frustration was not getting the disc of our wedding photos. As it was a destination wedding and it needed to be posted by air, it took longer than anticipated to arrive and I was going crazy.

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m still planning mine, but I think the most frustrating thing has been

doing it ALONE.

 

Fiance is no help, but he offers help…..but doesn’t actually do anything asked.

 

 

So yeah, that’s it. Doing it alone.

 

 

I’m beginning to think he doesn’t want me to take into consideration what he thinks or wants.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

the seating chart was the worst part.  an unsolveable rubix cube!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

The guest list and music. 

Music because FH and I have very different tastes in music. I prefer bands like Mumford and Sons and wanted some classical music while he loves all things country. It’s been a lot harder than I thought to put a balanced list together. 

The guest list… has made me want to elope more than once. FH’s got a huge family and most everyone has issues with everyone else, there’s also people that believe overalls and no t shirt  or a velour tracksuit is acceptable to wear to a funeral and a wedding, people that don’t understand that just because we invited you doesn’t mean than you can also bring your kids, your kid’s kids and that guy you talked to when you stopped for gas on the way here… We’ve had to pick and choose wisely and it’s still such a pain. We’ve only told a handful of people that we’ve even set the date, but already people have asked FH if they can bring so and so. We can fit 100 people MAX in the chapel and reception hall at the bed and breakfast, inviting FH’s whole family would mean that I couldn’t invite anyone. They don’t seem to understand though that if they don’t get an invitation that they aren’t invited. Most of them are the type that would hear about the wedding, tell 20 other people, and assume that they were all more than welcome. No, we’re planning on maybe 80 people total (already up for the 50 I originally said I wanted). I’m not looking forward to handling all the calls I’m going to get about why so and so isn’t invited when we send invites out. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My most frustrating thing is dealing with my photographer. I don’t know if he thinks I’m dumb or what, but he’s such a jerk. Too bad he didn’t act like he’s doing BEFORE I paid the 700 dollar deposit so I would have known to walk away and walk away fast. Good thing is I have a couple bulldogs for bridesmaids who said they would gladly stand up for me if he does something shady on the wedding day (I’m a people pleaser and can never stand up to people like that…grr)

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