(Closed) what was the most frustrating part of your wedding planning?

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Post # 17
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

The RSVP process!

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

I’m still a few months out, but 7 Bridesmaids with different bodies has been terrible. They are all sweet and accoomodating but the pressure I feel for them to be comfortable, feel pretty and not spend a lot has been exhausting. 7 is too many (I regret one girl in the party completely). I would have done it different.

Also, the guest list is problematic. I feel like I have all old people and not all my friends. Oh well. Parents are helping pay so it’s a tradeoff.

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@Cory_loves_this_girl:  ugh I’ve heard that’s tough!!!

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The guest list! I have an enormous family and there just isn’t room for everyone. I’ve been agonizing over it. 

 

Vendors not returning my emails!

 

David’s bridal royally effing up my dress!

 

Future Mother-In-Law wants to have rehearsal dinner at her tiny little house (Just found out about that one and I am pissed)

 

And on top of all that, no help. None. Zilch. Nada.

 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Finding the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses was a PITA! There was nothing nice at a reasonable price in the shops when we were looking. I was willing to change the wedding colours/palette and base it on whatever suitable dresses we found. LOL. 

Also +1 RSVPs. I didn’t mind the chasing so much as I did people dropping out after numbers were finalised. I mean, when your huge seating chart and place cards have already been sent off to the venue and everything what can you do??

 

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Other people’s opinions and thier belief that they had a right to an opinion even when they aren’t paying for anything. Nor is it thier wedding. People being so unreliable and not fulfilling thier commitments to us. 

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Nothing was really frustrating for me in the process.  I never had a problem with any vendors, the music was easy to figure out, the guest list wasn’t too bad, seating chart was a piece of cake, itineraries were easy breezy.  Rsvps were fine etc.  

the most stressful part was the day of set up – it was left up to my hubby and the boys, who said they could set it all up in 2 hours – I was really unsure about it and he assured me it was fine – and sure enough they ran out of time and half the decorations didnt get put out, and the ones that did were put out sloppy and in the wrong spots.   

i didn’t have time to see it beforehand, which I had a hard time with because I’m a visual person, and I spent a heck of a lot of time with all the details and placement etc and doing mock ups with him so he knew my vision, 

i mean the day was amazing but that was the most stressful part.  

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My maid of honor being a total sabotaging, negative, absent piece of work. Ultimately, I fired her and asked a close friend to step in.

Otherwise, our venue tried to increase our pricing by about 15% with no notice six weeks before the wedding. We had to threaten to change venues, but they came around.

Various relatives trying to make the wedding about them – as PP said, giving unsolicited advice and telling me the “right” way to do things – when they’re not contributing financially or emotionally or time-wise.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@HeLovesDogs:  ahhh bridesmaid drama, isn’t it just great?! Lol well first they ORDERED THE COMPLETE WRONG DRESS. When I finally had that sorted out and the right dress did come in, it was a full TWO INCHES SHORTER than the sample (I’m 6’1 so this makes a big difference!). All the offered to do was give me the sample. They didn’t have it cleaned or give me any kind of discount. I was just so happy to have the right dress I took it and got the eff out of there! Needless to say, I’ll be getting my alterations done elsewhere.

Post # 27
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@DarthBetty:  Been there, done that.  I eventually had to get used to the idea that I would be doing it all by myself.  It’s even more irksome when he complains about my choices and I have to shrug and say, “Well, you didn’t want to help…”

 

Aside from fiancé renegging on every offer so far to help (most recently, he said he would print the invites because I was struggling with it – here I am, doing it now, while he’s been sitting in the same spot playing PlayStation for 4 hours), my Maid of Honour has been horrible.  She is my best friend, so I couldn’t fire her, but I did promote another bridesmaid who has been a lot more helpful to MoH #2.  I am livid with my first MoH (I haven’t even seen her in more than a month), but trying to have broad shoulders.

Our whole bridal party except for one bridesmaid and MoH #2 have been useless, actually…  most of them can’t even afford their attire (which is the norm here).  This has been one big, expensive headache.  I wish we’d just eloped.

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@HeLovesDogs:  at least we have our dresses! Yay for that right? Haha it’s easy to laugh about it now, when I was standing there with my ankles showing… Not so much! The amount of money we are spending on these things, you would think they would keep better track of what’s going on. ‘Sorry we lost your dress’ doesn’t quite cut it!! 

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@Sevyn:  Wow, that’s crazy. I have two MOH’s as well. My first one is an out of towner who thinks that me planning so early was weird, and she’s basically terrible. My second one is AMAZING though.

Post # 31
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

The guest list has been quite annoying for us.  Initially, his parents didn’t want to invite anyone (wedding in Boston, his parents are in DC & rest of his family is in India), so we booked a small venue.  Fast forward 6 months later, they send us a list with 40 people on it!  We’re at 190, the room fits 130.  Eek!  I can only imagine the RSVP/Seating chart part!

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