- 8 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
The RSVP process!
The RSVP process!
I’m still a few months out, but 7 Bridesmaids with different bodies has been terrible. They are all sweet and accoomodating but the pressure I feel for them to be comfortable, feel pretty and not spend a lot has been exhausting. 7 is too many (I regret one girl in the party completely). I would have done it different.
Also, the guest list is problematic. I feel like I have all old people and not all my friends. Oh well. Parents are helping pay so it’s a tradeoff.
The guest list! I have an enormous family and there just isn’t room for everyone. I’ve been agonizing over it.
Vendors not returning my emails!
David’s bridal royally effing up my dress!
Future Mother-In-Law wants to have rehearsal dinner at her tiny little house (Just found out about that one and I am pissed)
And on top of all that, no help. None. Zilch. Nada.
Finding the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses was a PITA! There was nothing nice at a reasonable price in the shops when we were looking. I was willing to change the wedding colours/palette and base it on whatever suitable dresses we found. LOL.
Also +1 RSVPs. I didn’t mind the chasing so much as I did people dropping out after numbers were finalised. I mean, when your huge seating chart and place cards have already been sent off to the venue and everything what can you do??
Other people’s opinions and thier belief that they had a right to an opinion even when they aren’t paying for anything. Nor is it thier wedding. People being so unreliable and not fulfilling thier commitments to us.
Nothing was really frustrating for me in the process. I never had a problem with any vendors, the music was easy to figure out, the guest list wasn’t too bad, seating chart was a piece of cake, itineraries were easy breezy. Rsvps were fine etc.
the most stressful part was the day of set up – it was left up to my hubby and the boys, who said they could set it all up in 2 hours – I was really unsure about it and he assured me it was fine – and sure enough they ran out of time and half the decorations didnt get put out, and the ones that did were put out sloppy and in the wrong spots.
i didn’t have time to see it beforehand, which I had a hard time with because I’m a visual person, and I spent a heck of a lot of time with all the details and placement etc and doing mock ups with him so he knew my vision,
i mean the day was amazing but that was the most stressful part.
My maid of honor being a total sabotaging, negative, absent piece of work. Ultimately, I fired her and asked a close friend to step in.
Otherwise, our venue tried to increase our pricing by about 15% with no notice six weeks before the wedding. We had to threaten to change venues, but they came around.
Various relatives trying to make the wedding about them – as PP said, giving unsolicited advice and telling me the “right” way to do things – when they’re not contributing financially or emotionally or time-wise.
Right now in the process I have a new frustration: I have a Bridesmaid or Best Man who has not ordered her dress!! All my girls ordered their dresses in January when I asked, and have been super easy to work with. Their dresses are starting to come in, and here this Bridesmaid or Best Man hasn’t even ordered hers yet! She did break up with her boyfriend in early February, so I was understanding about that. But since then its been so many excuses! Starting to get aggrivated but I dont want to babysit or harass her, we are having an uneven number anyways
I ordered my dress at Alfred Angelo in August. They told me it would be here in January and they’d call me when it came in. January comes, I get no phone call. So I call the store, girl checks, and says “oh yeah your dress is here!” so I said great I’ll be in tomorrow. I show up, the manager meets me at the door and says “we have to talk”
She proceeds to tell me that they lost my dress. The warehouse says it was delivered to the store, but they never received it, it may have accidently gotten placed unmarked into another box that got shipped to who knows what store. She said if they can’t find it, they will have to order me another dress and I’d have to wait another 4 months! I was needless to say mad and told them if thats the case I want the dress AND my money back.
Thankfully, a few days later they found my dress (god knows where or what the story was), so I picked it up, it was fine, and like you, I will also be going elsewhere for my alterations! How do you “lose” a dress?
Aside from fiancé renegging on every offer so far to help (most recently, he said he would print the invites because I was struggling with it – here I am, doing it now, while he’s been sitting in the same spot playing PlayStation for 4 hours), my Maid of Honour has been horrible. She is my best friend, so I couldn’t fire her, but I did promote another bridesmaid who has been a lot more helpful to MoH #2. I am livid with my first MoH (I haven’t even seen her in more than a month), but trying to have broad shoulders.
Our whole bridal party except for one bridesmaid and MoH #2 have been useless, actually… most of them can’t even afford their attire (which is the norm here). This has been one big, expensive headache. I wish we’d just eloped.
The guest list has been quite annoying for us. Initially, his parents didn’t want to invite anyone (wedding in Boston, his parents are in DC & rest of his family is in India), so we booked a small venue. Fast forward 6 months later, they send us a list with 40 people on it! We’re at 190, the room fits 130. Eek! I can only imagine the RSVP/Seating chart part!
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