(Closed) what was the most frustrating part of your wedding planning?

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Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Bridesmaids. Ugh. Is it that hard to just order your dress when I want you to? I’ll even pay the deposit, I just need measurements! 

Post # 33
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Busy bee

Family – enough said….

Post # 34
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

It has made me feel so much better reading that I am not the only person that has had problems getting vendors to return calls and emails.  I dont understand how you can run a business when you dont respond to customers! I feel crazy when I have to call people 3 or 4 times to get information!

Post # 35
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Inlaws.  ‘Nuff said.

Post # 36
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Honestly.. the most frustrating thing has been my mother. I am an only child, so you can imagine. She literally called me at work one day to discuss how many inches the plates will sit from the glasses on the reception tables. She is stewing over ridiculous details that really don’t need to be decided right now, at least not in the middle of a work day. Ugh. I know shes just excited but good grief! And God forbid I pick out something she doesn’t like… She just says, “hm. nice.” I spent $700 on 35 invitations (small wedding) because I just love paper and stationary and they were important to me. She gets hers in the mail, “oh. thats…nice.” Nice!? Thank goodness I love my in laws or I’d probably shoot myself at this point.

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@adoc86:  Haha! That sounds EXACTLY like my mother. I have pretty much been planning the entire wedding by myself since my mother and sister live on the east coast. Both of them LOVE giving their opinions after I have picked something already/booked a vendor lol. I have learned to pick and choose my battles. I still have no idea why my mother thinks it’s necessary to have people passing around sparkling water at cocktail hour when there are going to be THREE open bars set up, but it’s not even worth my time or energy!

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

So far, bridesmaids. Beware who you choose. The toughest decisions for me were picking their dresses and choosing how to do our invites. 

Post # 39
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@nativedesires:  This times a million.

I’m a really independent person, so I kept plans to myself and Fiance. I knew from the beginning that no one wanted to hear about it, so I just never really talked about it unless asked. We already had a lot of stuff picked out right away.

– Future Mother-In-Law asked us out of the blue one day if we were going to use “Pastor So and So” for the wedding. I had no idea who this was, and we’d already chosen an officiant, so I replied, “Uhhhh…no…?” Fiance asked who that was, and she said it was the person who officiated his brother’s wedding. Then she again insisted that we use him. I responded that we had already chosen an officiant. She insisted again, saying that he was “amazing.” I was SO confused, because I have never, in almost five years of my dating her son, heard her talk about religion at all. She doesn’t go to church except for Easter. I very firmly said NO (again), that we’d already chosen an officiant that we liked. She finally dropped it.

– Future Brother-In-Law started insisting that his son be our ring bearer–immediately after we announced that we were engaged (literally within two hours of him proposing). He kept saying that we should have a long engagement (2+ years) so that his son would be a little older and be able to walk down the aisle by himself. I had to say no like six times before he finally dropped it (for that day). A month or so later, he brought it back up, and I had to tell him that we were not having children in the wedding, and may have an adult only ceremony/reception anyway. He got upset, which I found hilarious since they had an adult only wedding (but of course, their son is an exception now).

– Future Father-In-Law trying to talk Fiance into a church wedding to please his grandparents. My response was that we are not getting married to please anyone, and that we want to start off our marriage the way we want. I expected to fight them on the whole religious thing, since they’re very religious, but honestly, they’ve been excited about everything.

– My grandma insisting that our ceremony HAS to be “at least 30 minutes.” LOLno. Fifteen, tops.

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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@abbie017:  +1  Inlaws have been the only source of stress this entire time.

Post # 41
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I have one sister getting married 3 weeks before me and my other sister marries 3 weeks after me…so not only planning my own wedding, but being the supportive bridesmaid for both of theirs AGHHH!!!

Post # 42
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Busy bee

Everything.

Post # 43
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Busy bee

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@Tuskaninny:  OMG I totally feel you! My cousin has just decided she is going to get married 1 week after our belated engagement/pre wedding party in London, which we are flying back from Dubai for…bonus is we can attend her wedding, I’m also now Bridesmaid or Best Man. And my Bestfriend who I am also Bridesmaid or Best Man for is marrying 2 weeks before me in Dubai/Abu Dhabi. – 3 weddings in one year… I’m hoping I won’t see another one for at least a year…saying that, I havent been to a wedding in ages, so it should be nice, plus I can learn from these two, as mine is the last one,,,he-he.

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

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@Cory_loves_this_girl:  AMEN!

tryin to get grown a$$ ADULTS to return RSVP’s in time… its like keeping track of children…

there, I said it! 🙂

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Guests (the RSVP process), family members, Fiance, FMIL and Future Sister-In-Law, those BMs who flaked out 2-3 months before my wedding and anything else wedding related! I wanted a Destination Wedding but Fiance wanted his family to be present. And the funny thing is our wedding now is only 30 minutes away and they STILL may not be showing up!

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