(Closed) What was the most unexpectedly difficult aspect of your planning or wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Just because someone is a good friend doesn’t mean they will be good at being in  your wedding. That has been my most challenging aspect!It’s like herding a flock of turtles to get people to do the stuff they are supposed to!

Post # 4
2481 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

bad vendors- mostly my DJ-

dress regret was awful

and letting other peoples imput controlle the wedding-

I had centerpeices I didn’t want. I didn’t take controlle of hardly any thing at all…. and … it ruined alot of thigns for me.

however everything I did stick to my guns to I LOVEED!

Post # 5
1146 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

So far everything has actually been easier than I thought, mostly due to my dad being ridiculously generous. I am not super deep in yet, though.

The toughest thing for me is handling guest list, and even choosing my bridal party. I know that it’s my celebration and I am entitled to choosing who to invite, but I still feel bad for excluding and/or dissapointing others. There are definitely people around who are very clearly expecting invitations but I have size restritions and a planned budget to stick to, and those that were not invited, well, I truly do not consider them all that close.SOme even go so far as to drop hints as if to guilt me into it…which frustrates me because I would never do anything to make someone feel badly over their special day.

Post # 6
1081 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We’re not very far along yet… Only have the venue, DJ, and my dress completely set, and I have pretty solid ideas for decorations/flowers/bridesmaids/colors (just nothingactually purchased/made yet).

The only aspect that was (so far) unexpectedly ridiculously difficult was dealing with the backlash of choosing a bridal party. My aunt was horribly offended that I did not ask my cousin to be a bridesmaid, and she (my aunt) began a horrible fight with me that has since torn my entire family apart.



Though I anticipate the seating chart to be a battle! But I guess if it is then it wouldn’t count as unexpectedly difficult! 🙂




Post # 7
1721 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

The music. OMG.

Post # 8
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Accessorising my dress. Shes? Jewellery? Theres TYPES of veil??? Too many choices!

Also choosing bridesmaid dresses was surpisingly difficult, as they could try them on and are such differest body shapes. Suits too, come to think of it.
Man I have had major issues dressing our bridal party!
Here’s hoping it all comes together in April!

Post # 9
1291 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

The hardest thing so far in my wedding planning is trying to keep my family in-check. 🙂 Ha!

Post # 10
569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Fiance and I aren’t very traditional and weren’t dreaming of big weddings.. so after annoucing our engagement and hearing eveyrones reactions, advices and expectations we end up planning a wedding trying to make our parents happy and accomodate all the other guests which we didnt expect.. we always thought that we do what we want and arent followers.. but somehow we lost track..

we lost focus of what Fiance and I really wanted for our wedding… it is just so easy to get carried away with family, friends and even stranger’s expectations and recommendations…

so now we are taking a pause here and re-evaluating where all the planning is heading and make sure to bring it back to our priorities so it will be the wedding we want or at least the closest to our dream wedding..


Post # 11
533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have had some disappointments with my bridesmaids. I read somewhere that you should realize your bridesmaids won’t change their personalities just for your wedding, and it is so true. I wish I had kept that in mind and not gotten upset when a few girls made it extremely difficult to even arrange a time to look at dresses. In retrospect, I should have known they have acted that way about other things, so it shouldn’t have come as a surprise.

Post # 12
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Pairing family up for the ceremony procession

Post # 13
284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

The guest list drama, and the bm drama (just being fickle/ uninvolved). It got to the point that DH and I majorly downsized our wedding and eloped out of state with about 30 guests- just family. It ended up being small, with the detail that I had envisioned, and less drama than I had originally been dealing with. I don’t regret that at all!

Post # 14
8434 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

So far the hardest thing has been hairstyles for me.  I never do my hair, I don’t own a hairbrush, I don’t go to the salon, so I’m just at a total loss.  Still haven’t done seating charts though, so I’m sure that’ll end up being my arch wedding nemesis.

Post # 15
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

Definitely the guest list. Mr. W’s parents invited 75% of the guests… We didn’t invite as many of our own friends that we wanted to because we would’ve been over-budget. We should’ve said that Mr. W, me, my parents, and his parents each get to invite 25% of the guest list (total was 150)… I wish I had thought that one through before we went over to their house for  dinner one night and started just writing down a guest list.

Also difficult: I didn’t include Mr. W’s parents on the invitation (my parents paid for about 95% of the wedding, and my family’s pretty traditional, so I thought the bride’s parents are assumed to be the hosts) and they got upset about that. I didn’t put much thought into it but regretted it afterwards big-time. I should have written “Mr. and Mrs. Wallaby invite you to the wedding life Miss Wallaby and Mr. Wallaby, son of Father-In-Law & Mother-In-Law Wallaby.”


Post # 16
9799 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I still have a long time to go so this could change.  But I do have almost all of my vendors booked.

Hardest part for me has been dealing with my fiance’s random (and very strong) opinions on things he really didn’t know about because he hadn’t taken the time to research like I had.  He also still complains that we should have just got married on the beach and yet he told me we should have the wedding I really wanted.  He thinks we could save money by eloping and then having a reception.  UM…the RECEPTION IS WHERE MOST OF THE MONEY GOES!  Sigh Smile It’s not really been that often though so I can’t really complain.

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