(Closed) What was the ring, is now the ring again..

posted 12 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Have an honest conversation with him. Tell him that it is important to you that you get a ring that you love since you have a strong opinion about these things. Also tell him that if $ is an issue, you wouldn’t mind helping him out and that may be you guys are opened to a monthly payment plan? The ring also doesn’t have to be his choice only but it could be purchased based on a joint choice. That was what was done with my ring. Also tell him (to soften your opinion so as to not to appear to strongarm him into doing this) that if he were to propose with an ugly ring, you’ll still be completely floored because it’s the thoughts that count but why not have the best of 2 worlds? Moreover, there would be no need to upgrade in the future!!

Post # 4
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186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Hi 365 – I am in a similar situation.  I am very picky – cannot finding anything at the local jewelry store, and want something very unique.  I offered to buy the diamond, since it would be as much as the setting, but I think that offended him.  After a few months of fighting over price, style, etc. I finally decided to make a list with pictures and details of everything I like.  I wrote down specifically what I did and did not like about each ring I picked out, (all very similar in style,) and even drew up my “dream ring” for a custom design if he went that route.  That way he feels like he has options, (sort of,) and can still surprise me, (even though I know the idea of what he will pick out.)

Trust me, I know it’s frustrating, but you do need to talk about it… especially since you are looking for something specific.  Good luck 🙂

Post # 5
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172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If your picky…. maybe you could have a mutual friend talk to him about it. You definitely wanna get exactly what you like because it is gonna be on your finger forever. Another idea might be to ask him to go shopping together to get a budget and them help him work out a layaway plan. I do NOT think you should pay for it because that just leads to resentment. Good luck!

Post # 6
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1009 posts
Bumble bee

I’m super picky and was really worried about what Fiance would pick out.  We looked at rings online once so he could get an idea of what I liked.  He showed me what he thought would be “me” and it wasn’t something I would ever pick out.  I showed him several things I liked and tried to explain why, but I didn’t think he was getting what I was saying.  

As it turns out, Fiance did an amazing job.  My e-ring is so “me” and I get compliments on my ring almost daily.  

Don’t stress so much.  Trust that Fiance knows you and knows what you would like.  He may just surprise you (mine did for sure).  

Post # 7
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5280 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

do you have helzberg’s diamond  in your area or a sam’s?  the tiffany ring is my dream ring too.  sam’s club has a great ring inspired by that one as well (it’s not on line but is in the store and beautiful). I think it sells for 500ish.  The Helzberg is about 600 or so.

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